Chafing, strife, conflict is the condition inside which spiritual growth can be attained. Peace, quiet, silence is exactly the opposite condition, therefore no spiritual growth happens.
Just like a fire won’t become big fire unless it is bothered by winds threatening to extinguish it. just like love will be a tepid business unless there is opposing energies. you won’t become the best you can be, unless you allow that to thrive, chafing, conflict, pain and suffering is the path.
You may not know it, but people in the business of spirituality do.