In my work with people we look at the hidden stuff that actually determines you life. We are looking th ways you have fragmented your self, to the point that today you have only about 7% of your real self available, and the rest of the virtual self is a pretense.
And as with all pretense, you have to protect it from being seen as a pretense, you have to hold it together.
In the est training they used to say: you have your s-h-i-t together. That is exactly what you have together, your s-h-i-t, or as I say, your virtual personae, a different one for each circumstance. No wonder that you have no idea who you are, and what is the purpose of your life.
The personae you put together may look good, but doesn’t feel good: it’s a costume, it’s a mask. You are wearing it because deep down you don’t believe that you are good, that you are lovable, so you feel that you must.