I cry a lot. Most of the time not about myself. I cry with people.
When I pull an anchor, decades of misery and sadness spill out. And I feel it. I feel your sadness. I feel your longing to belong, to be appreciated. And I feel that you feel that you have been mistreated. And now that we have uncorked it… you can grieve.
I recommend that you do. Grieve.
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Theory induced blindness
I like to call the phenomenon of not being able to see what doesn’t agree with your theory of life: theory induced blindness. A more popular and better known label for it is “confirmation bias”.
You only hear what you agree with. Or more precisely, you only see what you recognize. And you only consider what you recognize as agreeing with your world view.
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What is motivation? It is the desire that moves… People say they are not motivated, but the truth is that every time you do something to fill a desire: sit down, watch tv, order a pizza… there is a motivation.
People like to say that they are not motivated, but what they are saying is that the action that is required of them has less power, less motive power than the fear accompanying it.
The truth is that every action that is taking you to an unknown, unpredictable area of life, future, is going to be accompanies with fear. Our reptilian brain makes sure of it.
Fear is our constant companion. As humans that got off the trees, were at the mercy of their fear to keep them alive. Every sort of danger was waiting them out there, and fear was a useful tool to keep them alive.
But, as you can see, humans used fear, instead of being paralyzed by them: they got out there and hunted, and gathered, and built shelters… and the ones that survived formed your ancestors.
The art is to consider fear and consider the danger, and then choose to move.
As long as fear is to be obeyed, for you, you are never going to amount to much, and you will live your life in quiet desperation, like billions of others.
I teach the art of looking, observing, considering and choosing. Look up my classes, my products, my coaching… because living a life of quiet desperation is a horrible excuse for a life.
Robert Kennedy once said, “Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly.” This profound statement may seem simple, but there is much more to it than meets the eye. This statement hints at the reality that motivation and fear can be closely linked.
It is common to fear failure. As humans, we do not like to lose. We do not like to be wrong. We do not like to be embarrassed. We do not like to be rejected.
And yet, the most successful people throughout history failed many times en route to their greatest achievements. Michael Jordan didn’t make his high school basketball team at first. Thomas Edison failed thousands of items in his attempts to make some of his greatest inventions. Christopher Columbus was rejected several times in his attempts to get approval for a voyage across seas.
Great success often requires failure, for failure teaches you how to do things better. Failure makes you wiser. Failure makes you better equipped to take on greater challenges.
But you must meet failure with respect. You must appreciate all that it holds within it. All the power within failure can be yours if you can see it beyond the surface.
Yet most people do not appreciate failure. In fact, failure repels most. Further, the fear of failure keeps many people from even attempting things at which they might not initially succeed.
If you want great things in life, you have to be willing to fail. And you have to be willing to fail many times over. Failure is a part of life. It is what makes us better. It is what makes us stronger. It
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I have been under the weather. If you are foggy, fat, tired, maybe you can join me in some free treatment?
This has been a trying winter, lots of cold, lots of snow, very little time spent going outside.
I feel weaker, and it feels like I am on my last leg. When I shared this with my friend from University, she was talking about reversing, and going to the doctor… but I was resigned. But what this conversation did to her: I didn’t like. And she is “just” a friend. And what this was doing to me… suddenly my sense of freedom is gone. I don’t read for pleasure… life in hell has returned to me in patches. Thank god not all day. But enough…
The perfect combination to be wide open to be the sucker in the room.
Something is wrong and it needs to be fixed… is the perfect state to render you the sucker in the room.
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I’ve decided that there are two kinds of people; those who solve real problems and those who create imaginary ones. ~ quote from the Monday Morning Memo.
This quote arrested me…
True or not if I look at yourself right now, are you solving real problems or are you creating imaginary ones?
Your life, when we look at it, will tell you.
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My methodology to lead you to become a human being is simple, and step by step.
First you become conscious of the machine and start taking control over your own life… by the Amish Horse Training Method, The memes finding, The A is A. And then fourth and final step is finding/creating the wind you walk into… The purpose. The meaning.
In the Nazi concentration camps, people who had a meaning to their lives, survived, people who didn’t… died. The guy who I learned this from is Victor Frankl, an Austrian Jew, like Sigmund Freud, and not much less significant. In my experience his discovery is the golden key to a happy existence.
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With great power comes great responsibility… Yeah, I know, sounds really boastful when you think I am saying it to myself… right?
But truth be told, not owning your power is more damaging to you than standing up and declaring it for all to hear.
Withholding it destroys you from the inside, declaring may get you burned on the stake… I prefer the stake, thank you very much.
I am as fearful and as cowardly as most, with one difference, maybe. I HATE slow and long, extended suffering.
Back in 1979, during my stay in a psychiatric ward, I decided that I’d rather get suddenly terrified, surprised, unprepared, and scared to death, than spend the rest of my life in low burning fear, worry, and anxiety.
This is an article that I copied over to my blog… so I can talk about some of the differences between how main stream handles alcoholism and how I handle it.
In my work, alcohol is an avoidance strategy: the person with the drinking would rather feel positive emotions, than deal with what there is to deal with: life, thoughts, emotions, relationships, problems.
Moving away and doing something that distracts one from an unwished for situation, thought, or feeling is called: obeying an urge.
Unless a person is taught different ways to relate to thoughts, feelings, memories, emotions, they will just continue to avoid them. Even if they become sober, they will just replace the alcohol with other behavior or substances: nothing changed inside.
Simple behavior modification doesn’t do it. A whole inner change is required, a superior skill to control one’s attention, that can be developed with practice.
Most humans living today are addicts and avoiders, one way or another. TV, internet, facebook, reading, sex, work, exercise, politics, sports… you can use any activity to avoid what you don’t like… and people do it, while they languish, and stop growing.
Check out my programs, courses, coaching, audios… they work.
The distinction between alcoholism and addiction is a dying one. For decades alcoholism has been classified separately from addiction even though both have identical symptoms and treatment options. These differences can be seen in the development of huge groups dedicated to one substance or another such as Alcoholics Anonymous and Narcotics Anonymous. However the fact of the matter is that alcohol is simply a substance like any other. Because addiction is not classified according to the drugs the person uses, it’s only logical that alcohol be treated in a similar manner.
Many addiction professionals are beginning to classify alcoholism simply as addiction. This is because no distinctions can be made between how addiction forms, progresses and is treated and how alcoholism is formed, progresses and is treated. This is described below:
How Addiction Forms Versus How Alcoholism Forms
When a substance such as cocaine, marijuana, heroin or alcohol causes the reward and pleasure center of the brain to be stimulated, the brain creates a “log” of associations concerning the events that led up to the “reward” of using the substance. When these associations are solidified with continued use, neurological pathways are constructed in the brain that facilitates the entire process. These pathways become permanent over time, and because they were developed in response to a substance, they can cause powerful urges that will compel the person to use the substance again and again. This physiological process doesn’t care what the substance is- the result is the same whether you’re talking about alcohol or drugs.
Signs and Symptoms of Addiction versus Alcoholism
Whether your substance of choice is alcohol or any
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Some of my students pondered my article from yesterday and asked themselves: why am I not reading?
One found something that may be the reason billions of people don’t read: by the time they would get to reading, they are too tired. They are spent.
The priority they assign to reading is low.
Normal lives are full of stuff to do that some meme says: you must do. Take a shower every day, for example. Many people even wash their hair every day. Read the newspaper. Do your shopping when you need something. Drive your kid to activities.
Cut coupons. Check facebook, your email, chat, watch cat videos.
I just got an email from Bill Harris of Holosync fame… A man I despise. He is hawking a book and a woman called Dawn Clark, who wrote a book that is right up my alley: change your dna something or another to make money.
So I went to the Dawn Clark’s site, watched her on a video, listened to her voice, and here is my “review”: the woman’s vibration is 100. The truth value of she says is 1%, so 99% is a lie.
She is talking about stuff she knows nothing about.
If and when you are a fraud, you make your success with teaching people stuff you cannot do. Don’t want to do. Have never done.
You make your followers, buyers into suckers.
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