You are an object in a world of objects… like driftwood.
People treat you as an object too…
And you treat people as objects that stand in your way, bother you, and such. Or give you stuff… or entertain you. But not as a person with their own feelings
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You live in a world of your own design… Don’t like it?
You live in a world of your own design… But how does one build a world of their own design? Really design it? Consciously? With the end in mind?
Everyone hopes that this sentence ‘you live in a world of your own design’ means that you can change your life.
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You hate your job? It is boring? It’s not exciting?
You hate your job? It is boring? It doesn’t make a difference? You are not good at it? It just pays the bills but no fulfillment?
George Bernard Shaw wrote more than a hundred years ago:
“This is the true joy in life, the being used for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one; the being a force of nature instead of a feverish, selfish little clod of ailments and grievances complaining that the world will not devote itself to making you happy.”
And what he wrote about you, being a feverish, selfish little clod of ailments and grievances… is more true today than it was in his time.
No one has offered a solution to that issue until now.
It is difficult to see beyond your selfish little self-interests…
It probably won’t surprise you that the most successful people, the producers, are able to separate their emotions from reality, and they more often act on reality than on self-concern. And when they act on emotion, they are just as stupid, inane, and ineffective as you are.
In MY job there is a way to be where I am the teacher and I know what I want to teach, and then I teach that.
And there is a second way when I ask: What wants to be taught?
What causes you to be that feverish, selfish little clod of ailments and grievances?
It’s emotions. Or more precisely: emotional reaction to thoughts, words, rules, should be’s and shouldn’t be’s… to what is right and what is wrong, to what is good and what is evil.
In a previous course of mine, can’t remember which, I use a metaphor, or simile… reality is empty, or mostly empty. It is the sky. And the emotions are the clouds trying to hide reality, cover up reality, replace reality… competing for your attention.
Your life, your effectiveness in life, your happiness depends on your behavior towards the clouds.
If you only see the clouds, you don’t see reality, and you are wretched, emotionally jerked by the clouds.
In effect it all comes from the Original Sin: accepting the Tree of Knowledge as the ultimate guide to life… and grossly ignoring the Tree of Life… aka Reality.
If you want a different life from the life you are heading towards… your job is to unlearn what is largely invisible to you: Identify the water you swim in…
You don’t see things as they are, you see things as YOU are…
Life’s but a walking shadow, a poor player,
That struts and frets his hour upon the stage,
And then is heard no more. It is a tale
Told by an idiot, full of sound and fury,
Signifying nothing.
That was Shakespeare, talking about you, about your life, about how you live your life.
What he means to talk about is a life lived by emotions… without using the brain, the organ of rational thinking, the organ of perceiving reality, or more importantly telling apart the drama, the emotions and reality… and base life on reality.
Until now no one blamed your proclivity, your tendency to choose to look into what you feel on your miserable life.
When you use
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Money Attitude Workshop on Monday at 4
How you do anything is how you do everything…
Money, as an area, is no different.
How you deal with money is how you deal with people, with everything.
Find out how that is… and what is possible for you if how you deal with money isn’t getting you what you want.
The attitude…
Register in the workshop.
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How to Keep Your New Year Resolution So You Can Feel Good About Yourself?
Feel Good About Yourself
Keep Your New Year Resolution? they say they are broken so often, they seem to be made to be broken.
Here is an article that I’d like you to read if your overall sense of life and your important areas of life is that they are stressful, and that you are never getting ahead. When you re-evaluate your projects with the method taught in this article, you will feel good about yourself, because you will keep more of your resolutions.
The method in this article can make a huge difference, and the time it takes is very small compared to you being stuck for a long-long time.
Joe (not his real name) made a new year resolution to stop smoking. He set the date, and he made a plan. Then he started to implement his plan. The plan was to gradually cut down. Then he kept on smoking.
We had our usual coaching call on Wednesday at noon. I asked: what would you like to accomplish in this call?
Joe started to talk about his weight… that one day he lost a pound, the other he gained 2… He weighed himself upon awakening every day, and he was mortified at the up and down nature of his daily weight. He was spending a lot of time worrying about that, he confessed.
Butterfly vs caterpillar, human being, vs human aka homo sapiens
In the history of the Earth there have been five other attempts for Life to create intelligent life. Millions of years separating them… Atlantis may not be a myth, just didn’t happen in our time. Civilizations don’t overlap.
Three of those civilizations were destroyed by natural causes, and two of those by the civilization itself… parallel with the current humanity and its civilization a civilization of caterpillars.
Our civilization is heading toward the same self-annihilation, unless… Unless human being happens.
Why are people Judgmental? that is only the tip of the iceberg? What is at the base?
You may be judgmental, and have been trying to change your behavior for a long time, unsuccessfully.
This, trying the change, is a part of a long string of things you are or have been failing at.
The REAL REASON is buried below several layers of justifications, and without getting to the base layer, the foundation of it, you will never be able to change the behavior.
You may be able to change what comes out of your mouth, but not what you think. Inside you still judge, and then pretend the opposite.
What books do I read for fun, and to keep my brain fit?
John Ellsworth
Sheldon Siegel
Paul Levine
Blake Banner
Brett Battles
Michael Leese
Michael C Grumley
Douglas E Richards
Lee Goldberg
Barry Eisler
Eric Bernt
Tim Tigner
Robert Bailey
David Archer
Matthew Iden
In addition to these people, I read every book from JK Rowling aka Robert Galbraith, from Neal Stephenson, and from Michael Connelly. These authors’ books are not free.
I have the kindle version (pirated) for many of these books. Just ask.
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The only thing that increases intellectual capacity is…
The only thing that increases intellectual capacity is reading
Reading NOT for knowledge but to increase mental acuity.
That is a 70% truth value statement.
One of my coaches’ paid newsletter for January says, I quote:
How to stay mentally sharp
Read!
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The attitude of choosing yourself… but which self?
Everybody has two selves. You, me, sages, everyone.
So when you say “I choose myself” which self do you choose?
There is an Amazon bestseller with the title “Choose yourself”.
I have read it.
For me choosing myself is incredibly empowering, especially because it is not “normal” for me, so when I say “choose yourself” I suddenly shift my priorities, and I become important to me. Still new, still amazing.
Being on my side… loving to myself… in every aspect, physical, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual.