Trying to define yourself is like trying to bite your own teeth. ~ Alan Watts.
Lots of people like this quote. They like it because few people are even able to go one step further than thinking of defining themselves from their minds.
One of my students tried. He said: “I work for this and this company. I am intimate and loving.
Now, let me ask you: why define yourself? For what purpose?
You are, energetically, stuck because you don’t see. You don’t see because you are not even looking… or if you are, you are looking at what keeps you stuck, what you have seen a thousand times… and it is not even real.
This article will provide an explanation and a remedy that is not just a set of good ideas you can read anywhere… good ideas that don’t work but sound good. Like the whole f-ing self-improvement industry keeps on giving you.
You have low productivity (if you have any productivity at all) because you are in reaction mode.
What? Read on…
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Summary: Most of us don’t know who we really are. What we really want. Where to start, what to do to become an expanding human being… Here is an exercise that can be really helpful, and you could start exercising the faculties that will lead you to clarity of who you are and what you want.
“The most complex problems can be stripped to their essence through unemotional critical thinking. Successful problem solvers simplify complex problems while seeking kindergarten solutions” ~ Steve Siebold
The complex problem I have been struggling with is how to teach people to start using their faculties, start to use their brain for what it is really good for, instead of searching for answers outside of them, instead of asking questions from others.
A simple solution showed up in a conversation with a client today.
I have written in a previous post that I discovered that my hidden identity is “worthless piece of junk = unwanted”. I use the word junk, because this expression is a translation from my native Hungarian. In the original the expression is closer to “nothing” than anything, by the way. But in English, I am afraid, that won’t communicate. “I am nothing”, does it?
From time to time I notice it “informing my mood, informing my actions.”
I found a blog that I enjoy reading. The writer of the blog is intelligent, inventive, and although we have a different base world view (he prays, I don’t) I like his blog a lot. I researched him this morning. All the pictures on his blog are white folks… turns out he is a good looking Black guy from Florida.
Hm. What must be his “core” identity that he won’t show his face on his blog?
Summary: from the comments and email I am getting it is clear that the concept of starting with HAPPY is totally inconceivable to most of you. In my response to a comment I managed to express the essence of it: It is like the skin color you have, it is part of you.
“In the HAPPY I advocate, where you start with HAPPY, stay HAPPY, end HAPPY. It’s not a result. It is who you are. You do what needs to get done to grow, and you are HAPPY while doing it. You are not “happy” to do it, that would be something else again. You are HAPPY, just like you don’t change your skin color according to the type of task you do in life. You stay white, or pink, or yellow, or black… whatever you started with.
It is as if you said “I am white” if you were born white. And then you live according to that.”
OK, confession time: I have never inspired a challenge, and I am not exceptionally good at doing anything like this, but…
But with the limited knowledge and experience I have, let me share with you some of the ideas of winning, and some of the reasons for failing I know will come up:
1. it is your life. It is your 20 days. You start when you are ready to start. And don’t forget: you do it for yourself!
How do you know you are ready?
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The general public, including writers, can’t fathom anything less crude for mind-control than the affirmations in the Brave New World, or the microchip in Interface. A little bit more subtle is the method in Snow Crash, but not much.
The general public, including writers, cannot perceive, cannot conceive, cannot believe in the idea that mind-control is much more subtle, and it is going on all the time.
Or maybe how it is done in reality would not sell books? That is possible too.
Who is controlling your mind and to what end? What do they want that they are doing it… and they have been doing it for about seven thousand years… maybe even more.
We suppress our emotions. Many of us don’t even breathe: we can’t because our chest isn’t willing to move any more, because we have put so much toxins into our muscles.
Suppressing is toxic. The opposite of suppressing is not “full expression” as it is in vogue to say, meaning becoming a raving maniac, the opposite of suppressing is allowing, feeling, being “with” it=being well while you are feeling bad..
Attitude… what is it? What is the difference between your feelings, your emotions, and your attitude?
Who you are is your essence. It is not a reaction to some circumstance, like it’s late in the day. Your essence doesn’t change because you are tired.
Your who is created. Your who responds well to verbal command, just like you responded well when someone said: your name is Joseph, or whatever they said. You said: “OK, I am Joseph.” And then it never changed, It may have been shortened to Joe, but it didn’t change that you were Joe. The who. But that who was just a label.
Summary: Now that I have lost my main source of income, I am back to the planning stage. I am back to finding out how to reach people that want what I have to offer: Energy remedies for peace of mind, freedom, power, and are willing to work for it at the same time, instead of waiting for a miracle or a pill or a magic bullet.
I am not often confronted. Being confronted always means that something or someone has breached the separation between your hidden self and your fake self.
You hide the stuff that you don’t think will work in the world, that will not buy you the image or goodies you want, the affection, appreciation, the job, the friends, the money.
