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Chances are: you don’t know who you are, and you don’t know what would really please you

We are all entrepreneurs, potentially.

The principle is: an entrepreneur is someone who remakes the world in the image of themselves.

There are a few problems we’ll have with this principle:

The main problem is that we have no idea who we are, how we are, what we really like, what are our strengths, what are our weaknesses.

We keep ourselves so busy with irrelevant stuff, that we never have a chance to see how we are when things are relevant.

Back in 1988, I started a magazine. I was one person. Sold ads, designed the ads, wrote the articles, distributed the magazines to stores that gave them away for free.

I made enough money the first month to live on, and did that for quite a few months… but…

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What makes hell hell? Is it a place? Or what?

I read one or two threads on Reddit every morning.

This is how I stay in touch with what people think, what people say, what people find funny, what grieves them.

Today the discussion was what could convince an atheist to become a believer. What could change their mind?

This is right up my alley… That is all I have ever wanted to know: what would change your mind?
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People who make fast and good decisions, go further in life. Success loves speed

Since the last article, I’ve kept on poking at simplicity… and the idea of decision making came up… fast and furious. I didn’t expect it.

Like everything else, this rabbit hole is a mile deep, but I can see that the benefits of seeing what’s there are priceless… People who make fast and good decisions, go further in life.

Success loves speed.

Our simplistic, skating on the surface approach to everything is of course what is keeping us stuck in hovering above being a human animal… but not moving on from there.

My Sunday call was again very useful in this… bringing the seemingly disparate, unrelated, large number of components that could gel into a coherent picture… why we don’t have simplicity, why we have disorder and clutter instead.

I am indecisive… in important things and in small things as well. I can make a quick buying decision, but that’s the only place I am decisive.

I would not have thought that the enemy of simplicity is indecisiveness, but found a ton of articles that claim that simplicity is turned into disorder and unnecessary complexity through indecisiveness.

Doing things to avoid making a decision. I just sat through a 2-hour webinar that made my head hurt: the developers of a software are including everything that anyone can wish for… instead of creating simplicity and elegance… something i would buy, but I see that if I bought the cumbersome version, I would never have the time to master it.

I see indecisiveness there… indecisiveness that destroyed marketability: I am not buying.

OK, back to myself: I have three ways to make decisions:

1. knee jerk reaction fueled by some strong and temporary emotion, anger mostly. Or vengefulness. Less often, but it is still there.
2. no decision.
3. the thing can be muscle tested… so the muscle test makes the decision for me.

I have a hunch that I am not alone with this tendency to avoid making decisions: the number of people I have met who, after having made a decision to retire, leave, quit, divorce, now artificially sustain the decision making emotion…. showing that they never actually made the decision: it was the emotion that did it.

Divorce, retirement, changing jobs… all fueled by and then justified forever by ugly emotions, finger pointing, and acting like a victim.
No one says: I left because I decided to leave… no, that is not justifiable… there has to be more… for it to be politically correct
But in essence this shows that people are unable or afraid to make decisions.

Including myself.

Why? Does it matter? Because responsibility is one of the highest spiritual capacities, leading to a successful life… A threshold capacity.

It is useful to learn ways of decision making, making decisions that we can be happy with.

Some, like myself, can’t decide what to eat, so I leave myself no choice… I eat what I have. Going out? No way!

The key element, the key capacity is responsibility.

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What do attachments do to you?

The type of energetic attachments, put on you by witches and healers and sorcerers, I have, so far, distinguished (There are more, but I haven’t seen my way clearly around them. I can remove these attachments, but no distinctions yet…)

Random, shooting in the dark attachment…
a less skillful “healer”, shooting a dart in your general direction. It’s much like a flash wound… it hurts, it bothers you, but it doesn’t go deep.

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The World Is Waiting To Exhale…

Today, I could feel that the world is holding its breath.

You see, we are all connected, whether we believe in it or not.
We experience a faint reflection of each other’s feelings and mind-states. Often I wish it weren’t so.

This morning I was observing a deep sense of sadness eating away at me… but it wasn’t mine. I contacted the person who “originated” the feelings, and she knew exactly what I was talking about.

So, when I feel that the world is holding its breath, I know it because I feel it.

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Emotional intelligence is the best known, but there are many different intelligences…

Emotional intelligence is the best known intelligence of those that aren’t measured in the IQ tests, but there are many different intelligences… Emotional intelligence is spoken of because that is something everyone needs and everyone needs YOU to have it.

In your starting point measurements, eight out of the 12 measures depend on your emotional intelligence, and if I want to be quite truthful, even your health number depends on your EQ as well. So in a roundabout way I test your emotional intelligence.

If you find yourself upset by what other people say, or what you hear they say, etc. chances are the problem is with you, namely with your ability to consider that what they say says more about them than about you.

If you think of yourself all the time, if you think things are personal, then you haven’t become an adult emotionally.

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Why are you inattentive, unappreciative and ungrateful? Not a character defect! A surprising answer…

This article is long… but it addresses something I haven’t seen addressed: when you are in your own way to get where you want to get, financially, healthwise, and spiritually. You inability to appreciate… anything, really. And because appreciation is the key to the kingdom, you are staying outside of the kingdom, no matter what you do… This article will bring a pointer I learned yesterday… Read it if you are yourself a victim of this, or if you have people in your life who treat you and your gifts with no appreciation.

It seems that I have written full or partial articles by the bushel (lol) and they were never published.
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Why is it harmful for you to search for information on the internet?

Knowledge is power. But knowledge is different from information.

Information is someone’s opinion, someone’s take on something… totally unreliable. It depends on the person’s world view (sheep or individual), and intentions. Looking your organs that look outward you can only see what can be seen… not even one layer below… You see what they want you to see.

If you have no core, if you have no substance, every opinion, also called information. will sway you… will blow you around like wind blows dry leaves in the fall.

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