Every learning is becoming. Every action that is aimed at learning but doesn’t lead to becoming… is not learning, it is just a pretense. Treading water. The drift.
But becoming is not easy, and it takes longer than you would expect. OK, longer than I expect. Longer than I have been expecting… 🙁
Why? because some of the learning requires you to be “right there”, ready for that particular learning. You first need to become ready.
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Category Archives: 67 step Coaching
If your life is manageable, you can’t and won’t grow
The first step in AA, Alcoholics Anonymous says: We admitted that we were powerless over alcohol––that our lives had become unmanageable.
Whether you know it or not, that is the most important of all the steps. And of life…
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Are you dull? bored? boring? Too determined? Hellbent?
This is a post from 2016 that is suddenly relevant again.
I woke up early this morning. I spent, it seems, the whole night with hair-raising dreams… so it was good to get up.
Got up and came to my computer and posted some 45 podcast episodes from 2-3 years ago.
I listened to a few of them, and I was dumbfounded how much better I was back then, how many more things I had to talk about then… intelligently, interestingly, engagingly.
So I started to look what the heck changed that I am so much duller nowadays.
Take care of what takes care of you
Take care of what takes care of you?
There is a book out there that says “Choose Yourself”.
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“You can only kick with one foot at a time, Otherwise you fall on your arse.”
“You can only kick with one foot at a time, Otherwise you fall on your arse.”
You can only pick one thing that you want out of life, and if you pick the wrong thing, you’ll never be successful.
…Joel Salatin said, “the worst thing in life is to get older and realize you got good at the wrong thing.”
You would think that the title is about multi-tasking. But it isn’t. It is a life that is un-integrated.
So what is an integrated life?
A life is like a symphonic orchestra.
Most people’s life sounds like the tuning the instruments phase of the orchestra: cacophony. Bad noise.
Only when the conductor shows up, raps his baton against the music sheets, silence, and music starts. All instruments read the same music sheets, all keep their eyes on the conductor… Integration happens.
An integrated life.
Yeah-yeah Sophie, but what is the music sheet? What should you organize your life around so you can live the integrated and therefore enjoyable life?
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Emotional Intelligence: learning what emotions are…
Given that I go deep with humans… deep inside… deep into the invisible… all the way to DNA, this article is different than what everyone says… so beware…
Ultimately emotional intelligence means: interfacing with reality accurately.
REAL emotional intelligence is when you can look at what emotions you feel, and not be guided by that emotion.
You have no control over your emotions. You can test it… try to be happy… OK now try to be sad… You may fake the facial expression, but what you feel is now that…
Emotional intelligence is to consider your emotions noise. Really. And instead of looking in your emotions to know what’s going on, look in REALITY… Emotions all come from something you consciously or unconsciously say… not from reality.
Why? Because what you say has nothing to do with reality… what you say comes from your worldview… which is a very grossly inaccurate image of reality.
I am getting in deeply with this whole idea that you can be emotionally intelligent or not.
And have zoomed in on a spiritual/DNA capacity (The Sight capacity) that when kept alive, when used, it provides you with a significant jump in your emotional intelligence, or EQ.
It seems that the biggest problem is that you are not looking at people and even if you think you are looking, you are only looking for what you think you can recognize… like a smile or a frown… but that is where you stop.
And if you ‘misdiagnose’ what you see, your response to it will be NOT emotionally intelligent, in fact it will be a false step.
Your life will be full of disappointments, upsets, and not much success, neither in your work, nor in your relationships. Or money. Or health.
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How to use what I teach to become all you can become… A roadmap…
I have given people driving directions in the ancient times where there was no gps and you could not google direction.
How did I do it? I drove the path several times, and took notes: what you see when you need to turn, what you see when you are still on the path, what you see when you went too far.
Looking back, decades later, and I see that this was training, preparation for what I am going to do in this article… give you “driving” directions to how to travel the path from where you are to where I am pointing you.
If that is where you wanted to get to, my directions are good. If that is not where you wanted to get to: you are reading the wrong articles.
The direction I am taking you is towards a destination where “One’s destination is never a place but rather a new way of looking at things.”… or more precisely a “new way of seeing things.”
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You want a better life? Want to avoid a life of quiet desperation? Resignation? Here is your path…
70% of your life is made up of the things you do every day… your habits. The remaining 30% is what you don’t have control over.
But even that 30%, where you don’t have control over what happens: you have control over how you react, how you do what you end up doing, and what is your attitude. My next article is about that… the how of your life.
Most programs you can buy make up what to teach. Given that the average truth value of programs is around 2%, what they teach must come untried, untested, and altogether not true.
Tai’s approach (Tai Lopez, 67 steps) was different. He looked at, primarily, billionaires, secondarily at famous scientists or other authors.
The truths he gleaned from billionaires: 30% truth value, the truths he gleaned from authors: 10% truth value. Hm, interesting.
Where does the difference come from?
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Everyone wants to be self-confident… why? Does changing beliefs help? Does energy healing help?
Confidence: firm trust, a sense of self, appreciation someone’s proven track record
If you look up the word in the dictionary, that is not what you find.
All dictionaries are now in step with the tendency to make words vague, not matching the reality… this word is a crucial word in your vocabulary. Unless you get this right, your chances of having a self, and thus the chance for self-confidence are between zero and none.
No one takes my Starting Point Measurements Seriously. How do I know? Because I have literally haven’t had anyone ask clarifying questions about certain key words that will make or break you… Not even one.
For example, no one has asked me what is awareness, really? Or what is trust? Or goodness… etc.
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Compounding interest… the secret of exponential growth…
There is a controversial saying by Charlie Munger, who said: to get what you want, you need to deserve what you want.
This is controversial, because the verb, deserve, is bastardized in our culture. What he should have said:
to have a chance to get what you want, you need to earn what you want. And then say: to earn what you want, you need to become the person who can earn what they want.
And this last sentence is what this article is about: the kind of person who can earn what they want.
One common thread that I notice among my clients and students is that they let their life hang on one or maybe two activities, which is not to be the kind of person who can earn what they want.
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