I have a wide cone of vision (I see the big picture) in most issues regarding “the economy.” Maybe because both my parents were economists? Who knows.
But having a wide cone of vision, especially in this arena, has its advantages.
People call me to find out, if their personal experience is indicative of a personal issue, or if it just feels that way.
Whether a person is successful or not can be boiled down to this question… successful people say they can handle it, unsuccessful people say they can’t. And this is where your word (I can/I can’t) will give you everything.
I have read about a man whose doctor told him that he had terminal cancer, and he should go home and take care of his things. The man went home, took care of his things. A week later he died.
Turns out he was healthy. He didn’t have terminal cancer, he didn’t have any cancer, any disease. He died because he said: I can’t handle it…
Fear talks… Depending on what it says, you’ll run, you’ll hide, or you’ll continue charging forward
I now have a coach to report to on what I accomplish in the project I started a week ago.
Just like you, my first report was something like this: “I know I did little, but there was this fear…”
“What does fear have to do with anything?” he asked… and I was dumbfounded. I know the guy, we’ve been friends now for 3-4 years, and he is always stopped by fear… Who is he kidding?!
I didn’t spend our time together to explain things, after all his role, this time around, is to coach me, not the other way around.
But, in this article, I’ll say everything about fear, and how it works. I will also talk about how to gain the upper hand, at least some of the time, in the face of fear. OK?
A discussion with hidden argumentative undertones is going on in the comments of some posts.
It’s about coaching.
Most people want gentle guidance. They want the results, but they want it all to be easy, nice, a walk in the park. They can’t find this anywhere, so they sign up to my coaching calls, but they don’t like what they are getting. They wanted gentle guidance, but they get coaching.
A coach’s job is to make you do what you don’t want to do so you can have what you won’t have if you do what you want to do.
Every Tuesday my driver picks me up and takes me shopping, to the chiropractor, and other errands.
It makes me look like an old lady, but that doesn’t make me an old lady… yet it took me quite a while to warm up to the idea of having no wheels of my own.
I pay her $30 cash, and I didn’t have any cash yesterday. So I paid with my debit card and asked for $40 cash back. I normally use the self-checkout line, faster for me.
I was putting away my groceries and I noticed that people were waiting, so I hurried up, and got out of the way. 20 minutes later I noticed that I didn’t take my $40, so I went back to ask if the employee overseeing the four self-service checkout machines held the money for me.
Here is the idiotic sounding sentence: “For you Everything is the same as everything else … except not always” Let’s begin… Ok, Sophie, but how do I start to see that everything is not the same as everything else?
First let me explain what that weird statement means… It is a koan, and understanding is just the booby prize, meaning consolation prize, meaning that understanding has no value.
The value in the koan is when you can actually catch that you misjudged something. If and when you even just catch (yourself!) something that you were wrong about, you have just stepped on the path to become a person with eyes to see and ears to hear.
Summary: In my search for finding transformational methods, I have come to the startling realization that everyone I know in the business of transformation is doing the wrong thing, teaching the wrong thing, and thus helping the Dark Side.
In one of the episodes of the House MD TV series, Dr. House has a patient who is dying. After a lot of tests they find out that the patient’s father gave his son a graduation gift from his scrap metal yard.
The son honored the loving father by keeping the gift on his person all the time.
The gift, a highly radioactive piece of metal, kills him, and maims his friend who was exposed to the radioactivity on a long flight when he sit next to him.
Why am I telling you this story?
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I thought I have written all I wanted to write today, but man plans, god laughs.
It’s Monday, time to read the Monday Morning Memo by Roy Williams… the highlight, often, of the week ahead.
Today especially, because what he is doing is echoing my own teaching: The main principle of Life is the Anna Karenina Principle: the principle of the strait and narrow…
Attention: I am trying to teach you how to see beyond the obvious, beyond the surface…
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What Is The Difference Between A Caterpillar Becoming A Butterfly And A Human Becoming A Human Being?
If the caterpillar/butterfly analogy were a good one, every human would be on their way to become a Human Being. It would be a DNA imperative: you would go whether you want or not. Human Being is not coded into your DNA. The space is there, the potential is there, but you need to activate it.
Or how to set the context to alter the story and therefore alter your actions?
Whether you know it or not, your relationship to life is stiff, inflexible, and therefore ineffective.
You look at things, always, from the same exact perspective, and therefore you see, always, the same old, same old life: good or bad, the same.
The Sideways Method
I have taught you previously a move, that can transform your reality, the sideways view.
