Category Archives: context is decisive

Scarcity, abundance… big words… again. What are they, and how can you get into abundance?

Both are context words. Neither talks about the stuff that is inside the context… inside the wrapper. The wrapper tells you how to look at the content.

It has nothing to do with the stuff, or the quantity of it. It can be great, it can be plenty… the context, scarcity or abundance will tell you what to feel, what to think, what to do.
Why? Because context is decisive.
You can have plenty inside the context of scarcity, and feel that you don’t have enough. Enough time, enough stuff, enough happiness, enough whatever…
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Everything you ever wanted is available to you, if…

Everything you ever wanted is available to you, if…

… if you are willing to look and see what is so about you and your life.

The truth. Naked. Ugly. Often shameful.

Here is a correspondence I had with a client today:

She said: “I’m interested in changing my context since it’s part of what keeps me stuck.”

“… answering the questions: what am I doing? Why am I doing it?

Unless you have done the work of identifying what you have been doing, and why you have been doing it, no way you can shift the context. You cannot catch what you can’t see. And you cannot change what you can’t catch.”
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The One thing: The who, the how, and the role of rest?

While context is decisive, the One thing, the way I teach it is as decisive regarding your life as context.

This is how it works:
Let’s say you invent for yourself and for your life to be consistent. That is your One Thing.
And then you use that one thing to do the same things you’ve been doing, but now you do them differently.

You become consistent in lying, pretending, self-concern… or doing only the easy things that make absolutely no difference for Life, for others, for you.

So you see, context is still missing. Because if you force your one thing to work in your default context, it won’t make your life 10x better.

I know, I know, the book doesn’t say that. I haven’t said that… but here I am, observing five people who did just what I am describing here…

And I can see that unless they design their context also for that 10x growth, it won’t happen.

So using ‘consistency’, the how… again.
What kind of context would pair with that to cause a 10x growth.
We could use almost all ‘how’ and get the same insights… Powerfully, purposefully, committedly, deliberately, with discipline. These are all from this past week from actual students.

I can now see, that like any machine, or process, you cannot just change a part and make the whole work brilliantly.

You need to adjust all the elements that depend on each others.

Let me help you look at another scenario where this is obvious.
You invent the context of becoming rich. It’s an OK context… not the best, but OK.
Then your bring your DEFAULT how to every action you take…

If your default how is, for example, stingy, or resistant, needy, entitled, or arrogant, you can see that suddenly your invented context won’t be able to make you happy, take you to the future ‘becoming rich’. Instead your default how will keep you at the same place.
So what I am saying is this: you need both an empowering context AND a how, your one thing, that can and will take you, reliably, to where you want to go.
It’s a dance…

So if our example person who invented ‘consistency’ as their One Thing invented a context, a direction or a who, for example, ‘I am in harmony with Life’, or one of my favorites: ‘What I want for myself I want for everyone’, the combination of the two elements make every action happen in the right attitude in the right direction in the right way.

This is what Wallace D. Wattles means by ‘The Certain Way’. He doesn’t elaborate. I guess a hundred years ago all these distinctions, context, one thing, who and how, weren’t used or maybe didn’t exist.

By the way, some students are from countries where the language still doesn’t have these words.

Moreover, when I came to the United States 37 years ago, I didn’t have these words either.

This is one of the 1000’s, Ludwig Wittgenstein said about language:

words are tools that we use to play different games, not intended, of course, in a literal sense, but more as patterns of intention

or
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You can’t become extraordinary if you live an ordinary life

I am getting a lot of requests to teach people how to become people who live a life worth living, who excel in all four areas, all four pillars of the good life.

My answer is almost always: Sorry I can’t help you.

But why?

Today I got lucky and got my answer in a pristine form.

My University classmate, Panni called me. We talk once a month. She is, of course an architect: we were classmates in architecture school, a five year study.

And she is a mother and a grandmother.
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The field: The invisible distinction that defines your consciousness

We look at life through the space we locate ourselves in.

When you go home for the holidays, you have a space inside which you interact with your mother. You have a space inside which you interact with your father, another space with your siblings.

Some people live their whole life out of one favorite space.

When you know what space you think you are in, and the other person makes no sense, that is because they relate to you inside a different space.

For example, Nancy lives inside Mother-child space. She is either the mother, or she is the child. When she is the child, I am either the mother (she loves that) or Not mother… she hates that. When she is the mother and I refuse to be the child, she throws a tantrum.

This is invisible for her. It’s the water she swims in.

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Becoming like god where you create with your word.

With regards to the title… I am not suggesting that you become like Jesus… but become like the Creator, who supposedly said: there shall be light… or whatever he said… This Creator created with his word. That is the god I mean…

The main difference between a human and a human being, the next level of human evolution, is an inner difference. Not biological, physical, physiological. Instead a difference in what tells the one and the other to do things, what attitude to have, how to do things.

Humans listen to memes, the voices. Voices that are not the human’s friends, voices that have no rhyme and reason, voices that make the human misbehave, and take actions that on the long run make him miserable.

Humans say things, but they don’t stick. They violate their own word, human word is cheap. Why? Because a random voice comes around and overwrite it. That’s why.
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The skill to develop if you want to live a life you love

We live as if things never changed. Even though we hear, read, that the only thing that is constant in life is change.

And yet, our minds, the machine-like part of us that cannot learn, won’t learn, and fancies itself YOU… our minds tell us, moment to moment, that life will remain the way it is in that moment.

Is that crazy or what?

When something bad happens, the reaction is not to the bad thing, but to the idea that the results of the bad thing are life-long.
When something good happens, the reaction is not to the good thing. It is to the idea, to the notion, to the certainty, that the good thing will last a lifetime.
When you are well… you are sure you’ll be always well. When you feel sick, you are sure that unless you fix it, you’ll never feel good again. Gloom and doom, or yippee… all is wonderful. The roller coaster, I call it.

So in light of this behavior of the mind: what is the most important skill?
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Your behavior is always consistent with what you see… All your mistakes come from here…

Your behavior is always consistent with what you see.

And what you see depends 100% of your available capacities.

You don’t even look… because you know what is there… you know there is nothing to see.

The difference between a blind person and you is that the blind person knows she cannot see.

Why can’t you see? For two reasons:
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The role of curiosity in how far you can go in life

I am following the teaching of a guy who teaches marketing…

Marketing is finding a need or a problem you can help resolve, finding the people who have it. Create  or find the solution to sell, finding buyers for it, and selling it mostly through audio, video, or the written word.

The company that is the best at it is Agora Financial. So this marketing teacher went to Agora to find out how they teach tens, maybe hundreds of people to write in a way that Agora’s marketing is so extraordinary.
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What is the keystone that holds together your life?

I have a next door neighbor who feels miserable most of the time. As an empath I am forced to feel it. No escape. Can’t cloak myself, can’t shield myself.

Yesterday, at 10 am she went into massive fear mode… So I had the idea to test if I can use the Heaven on Earth to ease her distress. I downloaded and pushed Heaven on Earth, the energies, across the two driveways to her, and it eased her misery considerably. To bearable level.
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