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The most important thing I have ever learned

It has been responsible for 70% of my growth, 70% of what I have accomplished, 70% of what I have been able to distinguish.

Every single Freecell game has a solution, except 8.

I have been playing Freecell since I was a child. And I didn’t know, didn’t suspect that it can be played better than I played it… or my mother. My mother cheated. I didn’t. Different soul correction…
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Can The Sight be useful if you habitually don’t look?

The willingness to look is a behavior, it’s an attitude, and therefore cannot be activated.
If you act without looking, or if you act from what you stored in your mind, then the activator of the capacity to see the consequences of your actions won’t make any difference.

There is a prerequisite to seeing: and that is looking.
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The parallels, the differences between Robert Greene and me

It was Apr 9, 2021

I spent that whole day watching Robert Greene, listening to him, reading him… And had a question to you:

What is the difference between a worldview where you look through definitions and a worldview where you look through distinctions.
Definition vs distinction
The first thing to do is to see what is a definition. Whatever you define: you talk about it. It’s characteristics, and you try to be as descriptive and as exactly as possible.
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How did you get to be the way you are? Do you know?

When you ask that question, How did you get to be the way you are? people say: my family, my religion, my past, what happened to me.

But maybe not. Maybe what makes you, every moment, the way you are is not the past, but the future you are living into.

What future? The future you decided on back when you were little…

Let me explain:
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When you find yourself in a hole, stop digging

We used to think that if we invented ourselves as something great, we could be great.

In essence, that is what we thought Landmark Education was teaching, and maybe on some level they did.

The formula was ‘Invent a possibility for yourself and your life… so you would say: I am the possibility of being smart (whatever)…’

But what our ego heard is this is how to fix our puny, worthless self, and we either said ‘nah, can’t do it!’ or we got again entangled in the fixing cycle…
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Without hate you can’t have love. Or is it the other way?

Without great love you can’t have hate.

And without great love you can’t have courage.

Most of my clients, and I suppose most people are cold fish. The don’t feel deeply, there is no great love and there is no great hate in them.

Are the people who are ‘pro-life’ lovers of life, and haters of death? No, they have no love in their hearts, therefore the hate they espouse is fake. They just want to be right.

The enemy of love is indifference. And the enemy of hate is indifference.

And what allowed for every single evil to happen in the world is indifference.
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What do I intend to leave behind as my legacy?


You live a sheltered life. Either restricted to a small area of the world physically, or to a small area of the world experientially.

So you, just like your cone of vision would predict, have a very narrow slice of reality (the pizza pie) ever seen, heard of, played in, experienced.

One of my 67 step coaching clients says in her reports, on average 10 times each report ‘Wow! I have never thought of that’. ‘I have never considered that’. ‘Hm, I’ve never heard that before’.

Each time she says that her slice of pizza becomes just a little bit bigger.
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Alex Hormozi: 14 lessons I wish I had learned earlier

don’t forget that Alex is a money/business guy. so he will almost always focus on the money. But happiness, health, satisfaction, love can be substituted wherever he talks about money


1. You make better decisions and you learn more by assuming that you’re dumber than everyone else.
the reason this was something that took me a long time to learn is that when I was in college it was all about showing how smart you were.
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Everybody wants to be special… But it’s a bad idea!

Santa Klaus’s name is Mikulás in Hungary, and of course Mikulas is Saint Nicholas, and his day is December 6. So today it is gift giving day in Hungary, mostly candy and nuts and red apples… as the song goes… in Hungarian.

When people come to me to have their food list muscletested, they rarely think that the food list will ask them to go back a couple of generations to a time when eating was different: you had to buy ice to have an icebox… You gave away half of your venison, or it would rot on you. You stored up goodwill for other times by sharing when it was plenty.

I am old enough to remember those times.
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Your self-image is always the context of your life

I watched this Belgian three and a half hours of utter ‘nothing is happening on the screen’ fascinating film.

It was a perfect illustration to many of the things I see, many of thing things I say, many of the things you experience and you don’t understand why.

In the very first Forum I participated in in June of 1985, the Forum Leader was screaming as he came down the side steps of the auditorium. He was screaming: You have your shit together! But that is all you have together!

It was weird.

I didn’t have my shit together… so I didn’t know why he was saying that.
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