Now that I am aware, awake to this whole issue of judgmentalness, I am starting to see how people are now judging…
Judgment is wholly inside the black and white paradigm, Robert Hartman called it the ‘systemic judgment’ paradigm.
In that paradigm something is either wrong or right, and there is no cure…
Here is what, repeating from the title, a teacher of mine says about a mindset… in his case in marketing.
He says it is a bad wiring… but what do you with bad wiring? Read the rest of the article
In the land of Israel 2000 years ago only 10% of people were wholly judgmental…
It isn’t the Bible, it is what the church says, right and wrong, is that encourages you to judge.
Judging something or someone wrong causes an immediate reduction of tension.
Tension between high emotion and the resting, neutral emotional state.
It’s the law of thermodynamics (Physics anyone? First law of thermodynamics, also known as the law of conservation of energy, states that energy can neither be created nor destroyed, but it can be changed from one form to another.). Heat moves to cool. A ball that you throw up returns to the surface of the Earth, often through your hands.
If you can’t bear the tension, if you are a pansy, you judge. But either way, the emotion needs to come back to neutral.
There is a species of birds that have to come down, right after birth, from a pinnacle they nest on to a ravine where their food is… sounds weird but that is what the members of this species, arctic barnacle geese have to do to survive. The little chicks, covered with soft feathers, need to fall off the height, hitting every rock… and most of them ends up fine… some die. But the ones that live will live.
Here is the video:
I don’t judge. Instead I opinionate. I assess. They are not the same.
Judging happens in the black and white paradigm.
Opinionating/assessing happens in the extrinsic paradigm where things have more facets that just right and wrong.
Here is a judgment about someone killing another with one hit: ‘that is wrong!’
Here is an opinion about the same thing: ‘huh, that hit was disproportionate to the offense!’ Watch the new facet!
Interestingly, my judging students cannot hear, cannot see the difference. So judging is not only in the speaking, judging is also in the listening. It is the paradigm, not just an isolated action. They hear wrong in everything… and even the details also mean to them wrong, wrong wrong.
The 3 paradigms of value
Because I live in the higher paradigms, extrinsic and intrinsic where you can feel, I HAVE TO FEEL what a human is designed to feel when I look at something violent, or unfair, or nasty, or treasonous happening. And feeling those feelings creates tension… like a ball that is thrown up high in the air.
For a while I hold the tension. But when the tension becomes too strong to contain, I sob. I sob for a few seconds, a few minutes. I feel the pain, I feel the sadness, I feel the grief. And I feel the shame, the regret, the anger… whatever feeling the incident makes me feel.
One of my students doesn’t judge, but has too low TLB… so she chooses to leak, chooses to reduce the tension in other ways, like marijuana.
That tension, by the way, is similar to creative tension. So if you cannot take one, you also cannot take the other.
And if you can’t take the creative tension, you’ll be stuck at the bottom of the totem Read the rest of the article
You won’t be surprised that 70% of you will choose ‘happiest looking’, because what people think, what they say about you is more important to you than how you feel. And that makes you an eight billion… unfortunately.
What do Sophie’s 1000 do that you probably don’t
The only real difference between you and the 1000 is your relationship to what you do. The 1000 cause what they do. Nearly 100% of the time.
Whaaat?
You see, it is difficult to teach how to cause… because the distinction is missing.
It can only be seen from what it isn’t. What isn’t causing. In some way, what isn’t choosing… although the overlap is only 30%. Read the rest of the article
How the famous ‘probable future’ can correct missteps, acting blindly without ever looking where the path leads?
In my experience, if you can allow your eyes to look into the future, you can see that unless you change something, you’ll get to a point where there is no more road… no more future for you… And that may allow you to take the plunge, and change your fundamental and limiting core belief about the world…
Because the issue is not what you believe about yourself; the issue is what you believe to be true about reality. Read the rest of the article
Today’s article will be illustrated differently. I’ll use unrelated funny pictures… like the New Yorker magazine does.
Why? One of the ways I have opened up my tiny box is reading humorists’ take on the world. See the funny in everything. In every single thing.
Another way to open up your small box is to read, watch good movies or TV series from different cultures. Read the rest of the article
My article writing teacher says that the way to write a good article is to have three topics and let people know what they are, ahead of time.
This is the same dude who takes three months of vacation every year… maybe he knows something most don’t, and therefore it is worth listening to him?
So here are the three topics:
1. work-life balance: how the masses are wrong
2. your straitjacket… a detrimental early decision
3. what you eat… how it makes you ill or keeps you well. Read the rest of the article
The scenic route of getting some teaching, and making it your own.
Making it nurturing, life affirming tree of life knowledge
I want to share a phenomenon, that, hopefully, will get clearer as I am sharing it. At the moment I can only see its visible aspect. I am almost certain it has an invisible aspect as well.
I read about three hours a day. Something that isn’t connected to my work: fiction.
But recently I have taken on a 20-day challenge: listen to 20 episodes of a Hungarian psychologist, Dr. Peter Popper, in his Mesterkurzus (master course) series, an hour long each.
Excellent, fascinating, the dude is both a psychologist, a university professor, a clinician, AND a religion expert… whatever that means. Read the rest of the article
You’ve got to define what’s enough for you. And that is what you should aim for
Until you do that, you are dealing with too much freedom. To much freedom often leads to unclarity, to confusion, or inaction, where fear, ego, delusion rule.
It is smart to define that and it takes smarts to define the dance floor where you can win.
What is winning?
Winning always needs a game. Read the rest of the article
Let’s begin where it began…
I have shared one of my experiments in an early stage: healing my stomach damage and my acid reflux…
After many decades of stomach trouble, and about a decade of nasty heartburn independent of what I ate, I realized that unless I do something, it is going to kill me or I’ll wish it did.
So I asked Source and Source suggested that maybe I have the dreaded stomach bacteria…
I started to write this post yesterday while I was listening to Alex’s video on youtube. And of course it is the next day, and I have no idea what is the one thing I saw yesterday.
So lesson #1… when you have an insight, write it all down, don’t count on your memory.
Moreover: don’t count on your memory for anything… In fact have no use for your memory.
People whom I found unteachable all do everything in their memory and thus they are unteachable. Read the rest of the article
