At any moment you are either growing or you are dying… but how do you go from dying into growing again?
You can plan for survival, and you can plan for growth
The most important difference, from your point of view is this:
When you plan for survival, every setback threatens you with death, or poverty, lack, illness or shame.
When you plan for growth, every setback is a new opportunity to use your skills to now grow from this new level.
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There is a certain order in the Universe.
I know it looks random and capricious, but it looks that way because of your lack of respect, lack of looking again.
Human nature is to think that what you do in one area, like fixing what you think is wrong, doesn’t effect the whole, and it will be OK.
But human interference in the order of things forces a kind of phenomenon that is a lot like wounds in war… Some are mortal.
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Inner Peace is elusive. It’s elusive like health.
What do you call peace? The lack of war? What do you call health? Lack of illness?
Imagine that you are walking in a forest, on a footpath on a beautiful summer day. The birds are chirping. There is a slight breeze. There is peace. And you may know that animals are hunting, eating another, and yet there is peace.
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The Sideways Glance is The Key To Raising Your Consciousness Raising Your Vibration
I watched a movie last night. Stayed up watching it till 1:30 am. Way past my bedtime, because it was urgent for me to watch it. lol.
I knew there was something very important in it for me to get. but what?
I had seen this movie, back in Hungary, 50 years ago.
The movie is called ‘The Lawyer’
You’d rather be right than happy, you’d rather be right than rich… Your microexpressions will give you away
I had a few remarkable experiences the past few days.
The conclusions from these experiences make me mad, angry, bitter, and hopeless… but that should not surprise you: the condition of humanity is hopeless.
Last night I had a conversation with myself and Source.
As I shared in my previous post, I have lived my whole life based on an untrue assumption that I was living on borrowed time, and at any time it can be taken away.
I saw that life needs to be set up in a way that matches that base assumption: don’t own anything, travel lightly, don’t get attached, don’t… don’t… don’t…
Don’t love deeply…
All to avoid personal loss. Because all can be taken away in a heartbeat.
It’s not that ‘they’ rob you, you are preemptive: you don’t allow you to have anything.
This sums up my life pretty accurately.
So, the conversation, last night, was about what was the biggest missing that I can put back in now.
We settled on joi de vivre (French for ‘joy of living’, joy of being alive). Source said I can have it.
Activating a feeling and a behavior consistently delivering that feeling is much like activating a capacity after it is turned on… it takes attention, awareness, and action.
Of course, you don’t quite know what action, but you’ll see it.
It started when I jumped under the frigid covers on my bed, cold, miserable, panting.
Then I had the thought that I could actually enjoy it, feel it, like an adventure. I could allow joi de vivre to call the day, not the shock of the cold covers.
That I had a choice.
As it turns out, ‘joy of life’ or even simply joy or happiness is a choice.
It doesn’t come from the circumstance, it comes from within… the willingness to pay attention to what is enjoyable, while having room, having permission for the not enjoyable to be there as well.
You can’t have joy if your attention is on trying to will away what you don’t like.
You can’t have joy if you simply tolerate what you don’t like.
And, of course you can’t have joy if you are just surviving what you are going through.
You can’t have joy unless you allow what is, and then find something enjoyable in the situation.
I have been really good at finding funny in situations. And now I can add: finding the enjoyable.
28 years ago I was really depressed when the phone rang. A person I didn’t know called. The conversation went in unexpected ways: she suggested that I would benefit from attending ACOA, adult children of alcoholics. No one drinks in my family… but when she read to me the symptoms, they fit.
The first and most important symptom is ‘I don’t know what fun is’
I didn’t know what people meant by fun. I am, just now, starting to see, that what people call fun is the enjoyment of what one is doing, what one is experiencing, in the moment.
But what people call fun all comes from the belief that fun is a result of something outside of you, something you do, something you take or eat or drink.
So it is not joy… Joy is a result of choice. Choosing where to put the attention, while allowing everything else to remain the same. Choosing is finding. Finding something to enjoy.
Joy is NOT addictive. Fun
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Do you think it would be worthwhile to learn what is the difference between you and someone really ‘smart’? So you can become smarter, maybe even really smart?
Someone really smart makes fewer mistakes in every area of life. They know what to take personally and what not to. They know how to spend their money. And they also make smarter choices. They get paid more because they spend more of their time with what produces value. Etc. Etc.
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One of the undistinguished urges is ‘cheap closure now’.
When you are looking for something through a filter, you’ll see nothing else, but what the filter allows you to see.
Your filter is most likely your worldview…
When you see a problem, you immediately look for a solution… it is human nature to do that. But the nature of reality is that every solution comes with a cost. And often the cost is a bigger problem that will plague humanity with huge problems.
One of the worldviews that will match this urge, cheap closure now, is the worldview that says: ‘It’s not worth it’.
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Yesterday I wrote about the destabilizing energy of avoiding, fighting, resisting. The enemies of having a good life, having a productive life. The enemies of being able to concentrate your energies on what you are working on.
There is a whole other type of energy that works the opposite way… the urges and the cravings.
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How do I keep my humility high and my about-me score low… day to day to day to day?
This question came from one of my students in a class. Interestingly none of the other students in the class asked this question. They didn’t ask, even though this may be the most important question to ask, and the most important skill to master.
You see unless you master this skill… unless you can reduce your about-me score to under 10%, your chances to interact with reality are slim… and for many people the chances are none.
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