It seems like I have hit a nerve: yesterday’s article was read by more people than any of my other articles in a long time…
If you are not achieving, if you are not accomplishing much in life: you are not alone.
And it’s not your fault. But even though it is not your fault, if you wanted to change it… you could. with the right guidance and the right actions.
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Warning: the biggest learning is in the PS!
I could make enemies with this article. But don’t worry: I won’t, unless by accident.
The success or business gurus, whose business will suffer if you follow this path, aren’t in the habit of checking what people say about the stuff they teach. They are so sure they got you, hook, line and sinker, that they will never suspect that they lost you to some other theory of success.
And they will be right.
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Possibility. Impossibility. Why is one and not the other?
Humans are weird creatures. They will go for the impossible… and snub the possible.
Snub possibility
Let’s distinguish possibility, shall we?
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Unless you can play and do play you can’t grow.
What’s the difference between your regular life and play?
And is the wild competition of let’s say football… is that play?
Surprisingly what adults call play isn’t… It is just extending their serious competitiveness, their inclination to get status and deferred value by winning over another.
Real play is not about winning.
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OK, I’ll be precise. Enamored by his prominent cheekbones and his upper lip, his rubber face.
Absolutely magnetic. To me. I just wanted to watch it for hours and hours and hours.
First time I saw this dude was when I watched Casino Royale… and I was mortified when he tortured 007… who even wants to know the actor’s name… all I wanted is watch more of this Mads dude.
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There are many many ways to play the game of Life
I experiment with some myself… so in addition to observing others, I also get additional data. Like how Life responds to the different ways.
I have recently had a breakthrough. A breakthrough I have intended for about 30 years.
Landmark Education and its graduates are famous for their big words. BOLD. AUDACIOUS this and that. Blazing a path, blah blah blah.
Nothing a mere mortal can put in action consistently… Or even once.
This is why most Landmark graduates’ vibration drops: they now have to pretend more than before. Now they have to do more courses and more courses… Ugh.
So for years I experimented with bold and audacious… to no avail.
My base nature, I think, is fearful, and maybe even cowardly. So bold and audacious was about as far for me as climbing the Kilimanjaro barefoot.
But I kept at it, and kept at it. Hey, nothing ventured, nothing gained.
So I succeeded, after 30 years…
Now, truth be told, I only have it working in one, maybe two area of my life… but if I have time, if I live long enough, I promise I’ll bring it to all of my life.
Bold and audacious is just one way to play the game.
So, before I brag more, lol, let’s look at some of the ways I see one can live life.
The fearful and maybe even cowardly way’s hallmark is the narrow cone of vision. Afraid of making mistakes, because they mean something. Like death? Like you are as good as dead if you don’t succeed?
The tentative way: every step of the way the ‘actor’ has to ask someone if that is OK?
I am waiting to get excited! way: When the excitement comes there is feverish activity, and then when the work really begins, whatever the work is, the excitement fizzles out.
The floppy and uncertain way… Seemingly drag their asses… because they are uncertain that it is worth doing what they are doing.
Then defiant: I’ll do it goddamit! way: no joy, no joy, no joy. Joyless servitude.
The ‘I know better’ way: bringing creativity to brushing your teeth way, not where it would be useful.
If nobody sees me, if it doesn’t buy me instant celebrity status, I am not going to do it
I hope they notice how good a guy I am. No? Baaah! I’ll cry
If you look and can see, you’ll see that the organizing principles are: narrow cone of vision, fixation inside that narrow cone, and all action is on the outside… there is no Self… or if there is: it is not participating in the game, doesn’t inform the ‘actor’.
The above examples are from my students.
Now, another aspect, the results, are that no growth, no challenge, no spiritual growth, personal growth, not even growing what you are working on is possible playing the game with those ways, those attitudes.
My breakthrough, 30 years in the making, wasn’t forthcoming.
So a few days ago Source was blocking everything I was doing… it was visceral and not very pleasant. Felt like a cow being driven by cowboys, out
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You think you know. You think you know who you are, what is important to you, what you want, and what and who is running your life.
This is your approach towards life. Through what you know…
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A higher state of being, a higher state of consciousness is when you are touched, moved, and inspired…
Let’s look at the word inspired first
People are writing to me claiming that they get touched, weepy from certain values. But when you look at their lives, that is an experience that does NOT inform their lives, only their eyes… Or maybe their ego, their mind?
What is inspired?
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What do you use to win? To encourage you to not quit? to stay in the game?
In a private conversation, when I asked her to pick to model someone who has done what she hopes to do, a client picked Alex Hormozi… one of my favorite people on the planet.
His story is, on one hand, unique, on the other hand is standard entrepreneur story.
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I was having an interesting conversation with one of my students.
Because he wanted to write his thesis on the Feelings book, an unknown entity, he needed to gain his thesis counselor’s support. And maybe even his enthusiasm. Or he was going to be alone… and it was going to be a tough road to hoe.
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