Paint With Your Words: or Are the Law of Attraction and its teachers on the light’s side or in cahoots with the Dark Forces?
The question What is Dark Side needs to be answered before we can answer the question in the title.
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I had a cat a decade or so ago. Her name was Kiki. She had a relationship with me that was very similar to my clients’ relationship with me.
I could say love and hate, but it would be a lie.
I could say need and resentment… that is the closest I can get to wording what was the essence.
My cat was a stray kitten when I adopted her. I already had another cat, a huge tomcat. But occasionally I invited the tiny and scrawny kitten to eat. She ran in and ran out several times. Took a bite and then ran. I guess to make sure that she wasn’t imprisoned.
And then, at some point she moved in with me.
At some point I took her to the vet to spay her… and she never forgave me for that. She hid in the basement for many days before hunger forced her to come upstairs.
In a way she was the ideal cat for me: she snubbed me during the day, and she warmed my bed during the night.
Until at age 13 she lost her sense of self.
I am writing you to teach you something. This is not just a nice story about a cat… So listen up.
I’ll talk with human words, words that will teach you something. Accurate about humans, may not be accurate about cats.
She used to pee and poop, and all was well. But at age 13 first she lost her control of her peeing… and peed in the bed.
Soon after that she considered her poop not hers… and ran from it… shrieking like a banshee.
She didn’t HAVE pooping, pooping chased her.
OK, back to humans: I found out yesterday that my clients have a deep resentment towards me.
What they resent is something I said about them. Mostly to them, occasionally to someone else.
What I said felt like an invalidation, an indictment of you. You are a liar, you are this, you are that.
Of course language is to blame, but I should know better. But I didn’t know it is taken as indictment.
OK, so what is happening under the hood?
Taking what anyone says, even what YOU say as indictment is not working, and whenever something is not working, there is something in the invisible that you either don’t know or you have forgotten.
You are your self. the owner of aspects of you. Your actions, your behavior, your attitude are your ’employees’.
So when due to language deficiency I call you a liar, I am not talking about your self. I am talking about your behavior. Your employee.
And as far as your behavior goes, I am not insulting you. And I am not putting a label on you. I am not indicting you. I am talking about something that is within your power to own or change.
It is yours. But it is not you.
You wouldn’t consider that you are your hand… No, you tell your hand what to do… it is an employee of yours. You are the owner. If you want your hand to do different things, you would tell them that, and that would be that.
But, probably because of sloppy language, you think that your behavior is you. That your attitude is you. You think that YOU need to change.
I don’t think there is anything wrong with anyone, and you are
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One of the concepts that none of my students have gotten before is process. Until now.
And maybe when she shares what she sees you’ll be able to see what you haven’t seen before. Whether you are a student of mine or just a reader.
This is from a student of mine. She has been in training for nine months. It’s taken that long to reach the state where she is ready for ‘step 1’ as she calls it.
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This morning I started to read my one non-fiction book for the quarter. John Carlton’s The Entrepreneur’s Guide To Getting Your Shit Together
I wish I have read it a decade or two ago. It would have made a huge difference.
It brought to light a ‘delusional’ worldview I have, where I expect people to do what I would do.
I’d never realized, and I am in shock. I am mortified, and it is, sometimes, too late, even though it’s not over till the fat lady sings. But I think it may be too late for me, but it is not too late for you.
So I am sharing it, even though I look bad… I am OK with that.
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Most lives are like that… never really getting from A to B…
I just read something really profound that can change your life.
Don’t think about being consistently great. It’s a trap. It’s impossible. Think about being great at being consistent. It’s a reliable path to growth and achieving one’s potential that makes a lot more sense.
Replace ‘great’ with whatever you are weak at…
One of my students invented herself being excellent… and it has proven to be harmful. It acted like a straitjacket she needed to escape from.
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At or after your original incident, you invented yourself first.
In fact, most people invented themselves many times… creating themselves as a layer cake.
I am not a baker. My mother didn’t have a working oven until I was about 10… maybe that’s why I never warmed to cookies and cakes.
But I am a brick mason… and bricks are laid much like the layers of a cake. If the previous layer was crooked, the wall will be crooked, and maybe it will even fall down.
The created self is crooked. Each layer tells a story that doesn’t quite fit with the other layers.
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Are you stingy with yourself? Do you say you don’t deserve?
You may be. And you may be right.
One of the obvious signs of stinginess with yourself is that you don’t give yourself enough time to do what there is to do, enough time so you could actually ENJOY what you are doing.
I call this ‘homework attitude’, where you are more interested in checking an activity off your todo list than actually doing it, enjoying it, savoring it.
And to no one’s surprise, you can do everything with this homework stingy attitude. Sex. Conversations. Dinner. Reading. And, of course, the 67 steps.
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Muscle Testing Yourself accurately… the truth method of applied kinesiology
OK, I’ll tell the truth: muscle testing on yourself is easy, but muscle testing about yourself is not so much.
I teach the art and science of muscle testing in the muscle testing course, because this is the best tool ever to know things to do and not to do, to pick supplements, to do the right thing, for you.
But it is not easy, and I have never known anyone who does it right, or can teach it to others. Without the proper guidance you have a gun that fires all at the wrong time… misleading you.
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A house divided against itself cannot stand, said Abraham Lincoln, invoking a biblical truth.
Congruence = agreement or harmony; compatibility. Congruent = in agreement or harmony.
Pretense, lying, you and your actions not saying the same thing leads to no success.
An inner division, lack of integrity, lack of authenticity is the main reason you are not successful, because your energies are divided and fight against each other, instead of using that same energy to get things done. To accomplish. To produce.
Criminals are happier than you. Hitmen are happier than you.
You need to decide who you are… and stick with your decision. In words and in action.
Hi Sophie,
I’m still here in the thick of these holidays, holiday that I don’t even like. Still visiting friends. Having house guests. Feeling myself become more and more discombobulated.
I started to feel myself beginning to panic the way I used to. Thinking ‘I’m falling behind!’. ‘I want to get back to my 67 steps!’. ‘Sophie will wonder where I disappeared to!’. ‘my vibration is sinking!’. ‘I am out of my routine, the sky is falling!’
I had to stop myself and consider, ‘what would Sophie do?’
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