We throw about big words, and we pretend that we know them. Even ‘scientists’ only pretend. If they didn’t, they would be explaining, clarifying the words, but they don’t.
In the Starting Point Measurements the vocabulary number is what indicates this. I originally intended to call this clarity, but then I decided that if it refers to words, then maybe it can be instructive.
It hasn’t been.
So this article will be, mostly, about words.
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One of the signs of the overwhelming inauthenticity and low level of integrity is the gap between what people say and what people do.
We, my marketing student and I, have been surveying mothers and fathers of children to find out to what degree they care about their children’s future.
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Oh no! This video software that used to work doesn’t work any more. I cried out… This can happen to anyone. Technology changes so rapidly, keeping pace with it is both expensive and time consuming.
Sometimes there is an upgrade. Nowadays upgrades cost money… or the software developer simply abandoned you… and you are stranded with a software that doesn’t work any more.
I have been teaching what I teach for seven years. Teach people a world view that has been tested and true, and includes the invisible. This world view is sharply different from the accepted norms… but it works, instead of just being a nice theory like what psychologists and philosophers teach. Or even Landmark Education… or the Kabbalah Centre… or any of the gurus.
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For decades one of my sore spots was that people refused to serve me, even though I paid them.
I remember saying to myself: my money is not good enough for you? and wept.
I had no idea how I “accomplished” that… in 20/20 hindsight it is still a little spotty.
What wasn’t clear to me, never even occurred to me, how my attitude effected the service provider. My “To what degree you think of yourself:” starting point measure was, at the time, 70%. From my behavior I would have guessed it was higher.
Mainly I overrode what they said. I argued, I knew better, I acted with contempt…
What I didn’t know then is that being a service provider needs to be a win, or no service.
A customer who is not happy is a drag on an provider, and not worth the little (or even a lot of) money they pay.
I was that kind of customer…
While context is decisive, the One thing, the way I teach it is as decisive regarding your life as context.
This is how it works:
Let’s say you invent for yourself and for your life to be consistent. That is your One Thing.
And then you use that one thing to do the same things you’ve been doing, but now you do them differently.
You become consistent in lying, pretending, self-concern… or doing only the easy things that make absolutely no difference for Life, for others, for you.
So you see, context is still missing. Because if you force your one thing to work in your default context, it won’t make your life 10x better.
I know, I know, the book doesn’t say that. I haven’t said that… but here I am, observing five people who did just what I am describing here…
And I can see that unless they design their context also for that 10x growth, it won’t happen.
So using ‘consistency’, the how… again.
What kind of context would pair with that to cause a 10x growth.
We could use almost all ‘how’ and get the same insights… Powerfully, purposefully, committedly, deliberately, with discipline. These are all from this past week from actual students.
I can now see, that like any machine, or process, you cannot just change a part and make the whole work brilliantly.
You need to adjust all the elements that depend on each others.
Let me help you look at another scenario where this is obvious.
You invent the context of becoming rich. It’s an OK context… not the best, but OK.
Then your bring your DEFAULT how to every action you take…
If your default how is, for example, stingy, or resistant, needy, entitled, or arrogant, you can see that suddenly your invented context won’t be able to make you happy, take you to the future ‘becoming rich’. Instead your default how will keep you at the same place.
So what I am saying is this: you need both an empowering context AND a how, your one thing, that can and will take you, reliably, to where you want to go.
It’s a dance…
So if our example person who invented ‘consistency’ as their One Thing invented a context, a direction or a who, for example, ‘I am in harmony with Life’, or one of my favorites: ‘What I want for myself I want for everyone’, the combination of the two elements make every action happen in the right attitude in the right direction in the right way.
This is what Wallace D. Wattles means by ‘The Certain Way’. He doesn’t elaborate. I guess a hundred years ago all these distinctions, context, one thing, who and how, weren’t used or maybe didn’t exist.
By the way, some students are from countries where the language still doesn’t have these words.
Moreover, when I came to the United States 37 years ago, I didn’t have these words either.
This is one of the 1000’s, Ludwig Wittgenstein said about language:
words are tools that we use to play different games, not intended, of course, in a literal sense, but more as patterns of intention
With regards to the title… I am not suggesting that you become like Jesus… but become like the Creator, who supposedly said: there shall be light… or whatever he said… This Creator created with his word. That is the god I mean…
The main difference between a human and a human being, the next level of human evolution, is an inner difference. Not biological, physical, physiological. Instead a difference in what tells the one and the other to do things, what attitude to have, how to do things.
Humans listen to memes, the voices. Voices that are not the human’s friends, voices that have no rhyme and reason, voices that make the human misbehave, and take actions that on the long run make him miserable.
Humans say things, but they don’t stick. They violate their own word, human word is cheap. Why? Because a random voice comes around and overwrite it. That’s why.
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We live as if things never changed. Even though we hear, read, that the only thing that is constant in life is change.
And yet, our minds, the machine-like part of us that cannot learn, won’t learn, and fancies itself YOU… our minds tell us, moment to moment, that life will remain the way it is in that moment.
Is that crazy or what?
When something bad happens, the reaction is not to the bad thing, but to the idea that the results of the bad thing are life-long.
When something good happens, the reaction is not to the good thing. It is to the idea, to the notion, to the certainty, that the good thing will last a lifetime.
When you are well… you are sure you’ll be always well. When you feel sick, you are sure that unless you fix it, you’ll never feel good again. Gloom and doom, or yippee… all is wonderful. The roller coaster, I call it.
So in light of this behavior of the mind: what is the most important skill?
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Your behavior is always consistent with what you see.
And what you see depends 100% of your available capacities.
You don’t even look… because you know what is there… you know there is nothing to see.
The difference between a blind person and you is that the blind person knows she cannot see.
Why can’t you see? For two reasons:
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In my weekly coaching call with my only business/marketing student last night, I went deep into the causes of why someone with a degree, why someone who is making a living, cannot move further up the life-satisfaction, life effectiveness scale.
I have found two blatant holes in him, that my guess is shared by all of you, or most of you.
1. a total blindness of what gives meaning and therefore the mood for life.
2. a total inability to see what is cause and what is effect.
So how do you fix that? You don’t.
When you find something that isn’t working or isn’t working as well as you’d like it to, your knee jerk reaction is to fix it. Or change it. Or stop doing it.
But unless what you found is seed level, you can work till the cows come home, and you will only produce pretense, but not a change.
Parents want to help, but instead they push you deeper into the bull’s ear.
The expression, came from a student’s father, you are in the bull’s ear, is a great distinction. It is not American, and because it is alien sounding, almost nonsensical, it can wake you up.
