Affirmations to Keep You on Track in Life

If you know me, you know that the misery I experienced in my life for 50 years drove me to many modalities of relief, including affirmations.

Affirmations don’t work for me. Never did and never will.

Why? Because affirmations are spoken from the mind: and the mind says so many things, a nice word here and there won’t make a difference. Just watch how much difference and how long a pat on the back does to you: not much, correct?

Life started to change when I learned different ways of speaking. I learned that there is descriptive language, and that includes the affirmations: the ordinary way of speaking of most people.

Then there are the active ways of speaking: requests, promises, and declarations. This way of speaking does not come from the mind: it comes from your higher way of being: your vertical plane, your vertical self.

This kind of speaking creates a context that is inescapable.

Of course, this doesn’t mean that people won’t use request or promise sounding sentences, that come from the mind, a casual tool of babbling. They may even seem to declare something, but the power is missing.

Any speaking that comes from the mind is mere chatter, and any speaking that comes from the Self is a command.

So then why do negative statements seem to have disastrous consequences: what the statement says seems to come true? Because those statements, when spoken in the absence of a commitment, the absence of a higher context, are the true description of where the speaker’s world is heading.

I often say: this won’t work… this is going to fail… but my actions are not consistent with those “affirmations”, they are consistent with making it work.

Your most important job, if you want your word to have power, is to learn to connect to your higher self (not god! not Jesus! but your own higher self), and speak from there.

Until then you are just littering the world with your affirmations.

“What changes your focus changes your faith. What changes your faith changes your outcome.” ~ Jesse Duplantis

Let me start by saying that everything you say is some kind of affirmation – either positive or negative. When you complain to your friends, “nothing ever goes right for me,” you are affirming to the world and the universe that nothing should go right in your life.

It’s true, you know. You are where you are today because of your beliefs, attitudes and words. What you say today becomes your reality tomorrow. What you believe about yourself and your situation creates and maintains your world.

You may not like where you are right now. You may not think you deserve all the hassles, stress and problems. And you are right. But you are the only one who can change your life with affirmations.

It was a revelation to me that my lack of money, bad attitude and poor relationships were my own fault! It was life-changing to learn that I could change my circumstances by changing my words.

Over the years, I have learned to say
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How psychologists, writers, gurus, get it wrong… and nobody is happy, including them

I looked at pictures of Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi… who wrote the book Flow, and is an expert on talking about happiness. Not being happy, mind you, on researching happiness.

He doesn’t look happy, doesn’t feel happy (remember, I am an empath).

I even went and found videos where he speaks Hungarian… hoping to find a picture where he is joyful.

Didn’t find any. Not even one.

His insightful quote: “People who learn to control inner experience will be able to determine the quality of their lives, which is as close as any of us can come to being happy.” is what was missing for him, and what is missing for most people most of the time.
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The Amish Horse Training… key to the silent mind

Yesterday I had a rude awakening.

In a call with a private coaching client the clarity issue came up… After several instruction sessions, he still didn’t understand how to do the Amish Horse Training Method. You could say that I spoke butterfly and he heard caterpillar…

As I have written before, one of the measures of Axiology, the science of value through measurements, obviously heroes of mine…

Clarity. How accurately you see, hear, read…

Most people have low clarity.

I measure your clarity in the vocabulary measure… #10 which is what I find useful.
If your clarity is low, (under 1000) you will not be able to follow instructions. you will not be able to understand what an author said, the way they mean it, the way it is written.
I noticed last night that when I encountered a word in a book, on my kindle, that I only knew approximately what it meant, that unless I went to the dictionary right away, instead of reading what I was reading, the mind hijacked my attention and started to deal with the word, instead of the book, or what I was reading.

This matches my clients’ experience when they listen to me on a call. When they encounter a word they are not sure about, they spin off to a narrative type space (the mind) and stop hearing what I am saying.

Being a teacher, this spells disaster for me and my teaching.
If you can’t follow my teaching, your results, consistent with my teaching, are not forthcoming.

The average understanding of my students! of my teaching is 10% (according to muscle test)
The average understanding of visitors of my site of my teaching is 3%.

It is caused by the lack of accurate vocabulary 100% of the time.

I can’t train your vocabulary, that is your autodidact process. But I can train the Amish Horse Training Method

Without being able to do the Amish Horse Training Method, accurately, the way it was meant to be done, without cutting corners, inside and empowering context, you will NEVER in a million years will be able to reclaim your power from the mind, from the voices, from the memes, from the Dark Side.

It is frustrating to teach people who cannot hear you. You can imagine.
But when I ask the question: is it worth it? The answer is yes. Even if I can only manage to teach one person… and that one person becomes an expanding human being, the practice has proven itself to be accurate, and to work.
And then I can have a choice to add others to that side, or call it a day, and retire or die.

Until then: my work is not finished.
As long as you habitually go to the mind, nothing new can enter.
Your clarity will actually decrease. Any and all course, book, teaching will be misunderstood. And you’ll go deeper and deeper to the place where you have no control over your inner environment meaning, no control of what runs your life, and no control of how you feel.

I have a plan for a solution. It may not work… but you never know until you tested it. That is how it
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Do you want to fall in love with yourself?

I had an experience this morning that I’d like to share.

Someone asked for the silent version of the Effortless Abundance Activator audio.

I dug for the parts of it my hard drive, and put it together… without the ocean sound in the background. Don’t forget, most of the activators are put together from many audios layered, otherwise each energy would come down one after the other and the effect would be less, and the audio longer. So I record the energies in separate audios and then layer them… instead.

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Become like god… create with your word… but how?

I bet you want to be able to create with your word… right? But your attempts have been failed attempts…

Here is some clarification why that doesn’t work, even though you have the capacity… but it isn’t working.

I woke up early today. I woke up from probably the best-feeling dream I have ever had.

I was in some kind of exam, and I was compared, paired up, grouped with people who were decades younger, and miles below my knowledge level.

But they were home, and I was an alien. Alien to the country, not a space alien.

Anyway, there was this teacher, who worked with me… Forgot to say that the exam was in another language… not any of the languages I already speak.

The teacher and I worked. On the day of the exam I left him home to sleep, and went to the exam by myself.
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Coming Out Of Grief – The Process And the Problem

This article deals with the stages of healing, healing your grief. Denial, anger, fear, and so on.

The most important distinction I can add is: check your cone of vision. If your cone of vision is narrow, everything is colored or filled with your grief: the context of life becomes your grief, independent of the content of life.

In addition to that, when you are grief stricken, you start interacting with unreality, and avoid reality.

If there is any hint of “no” in your thoughts, you are interacting with unreality. There is NO no in reality.

I learned this through my own grieving process almost 20 years ago, when my mother died.

She was in Hungary and I was in New Jersey. I didn’t even know she wasn’t well until after she died.

My whole grief was about what I didn’t, could not do, and what we could not do together.

All unreality.

When I came to terms with that, that all grieving is about unreality, I started to tell the truth about reality: I was in New Jersey and she was in Hungary and she died. If I am interested in doing all the things I planned to do with her: I surely will find the time and opportunity to do it with myself or with someone else.

Stabs of grief were still there, but only occasionally.

When you find what’s real, your love, your appreciation, you will have a time that if they could watch you, they would love to watch. Instead, they are watching you crying yourself into oblivion, turn to drinking, or sex, or gambling… If they could grieve, they would have a good reason now, watching you.

Grief strikes every one of us sometime or the other in our lives. Many of us find it difficult to come out of it. People get stuck in grief and find it unable to move forward. The situation is similar to a vehicle getting stuck in deep mud and not moving out of it despite frantic efforts made by people.

Coming out of grief is very important for us to progress. But several factors inhibit this process. The most important of them is the state of denial. Many people will find it difficult to accept the happening of a sad event. The obsessive belief ‘This cannot happen to me’ is so deeply entrenched in our minds that we refuse to see the reality that stands before us.

The grief can be the result of a natural event like the death of a person close to us, an unexpected financial loss etc. It can also be the result of someone acting against us. It can be an act of cheating, betrayal or just being let down by someone whom we trusted. The initial response will always be to deny the happening. This state of denial will persist for a while. We sometimes read about someone living with the corpse of a person dear to them for several days, unmindful of the stink emanating from the disintegrating body. These are examples of extreme states of denial.

The second stage is anger. Once we accept (or are forced to accept) what has happened, then the belief ‘This cannot happen to me’ turns into a question, ‘how can this
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The beginning is delayed but not by much

“A beginning is the time for taking the most delicate care that the balances are correct,” wrote science fiction author Frank Herbert.
Sometimes you need to go through extreme hardship to learn what you need to learn.

In the normal course of events, as soon as I have something, I announce it on these pages, and that’s that… the beginning is not taken delicate care of… and I don’t worry about the balances.

Let the chips fall where the chips fall, has been my slogan, and it has caused me considerable amount of suffering, physical, financial, mostly.

I have spent the last week under siege, being attacked 18-19 hours a day. Most of the time I was semi-conscious only, and mostly on conscious of the pain, contemplating my mortality, hoping to get an hour’s of clarity to leave life with the result I have sought and found: the key to the thousand years of peace.

Last night I gave up trying to hold it together and surrendered to whatever I have been connecting to it, and said the magic words: “I need help”

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The key to consistency… Winners are consistent. What is missing for you?

Yesterday I had a huge awakening.

A long held assessment of mine that I was a lousy business coach fall apart.

I have tried my hand on business coaching many times in the past 40 years, and every time I hated it. So I didn’t even gave myself an opportunity to do it badly… I fired the clients after one or two sessions.

Now, what has changed that I don’t think of myself as a bad business coach?

A whole lot…

But before I make the list… let me look for the source of this change…
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