Don’t set ambitious goals! sounds counter cultural?

In the famous marshmallow experiment by Walter Mischel. He said that the 30% of the kids that didn’t eat the marshmallow, didn’t even look at the marshmallow. They kept doing other things, keeping their eyes off the marshmallow. Consciously, intentionally, and purposefully.
The marshmallow is ‘the thing’, the goal people want… and it is what actually causes them to jump the gun, to quit pursuing it prematurely.
I have read a lot about that experiment, I have even written about it, but I didn’t know that the ‘winners’ avoided looking at the marshmallow. that piece was missing for me, until now.

One of the challenges I face with my students and clients is their high desire number, and the Desire Trap…
This discovery I stumbled on, by accident, is the missing piece in helping my students with that challenge.
Watching that TED talk yesterday opened up something inside, that is still full of swirling fog, ethereal figures, and yet, I know that something from the invisible has been released.

I was getting busy going down the rabbit hole about the marshmallow test which is as much of a principle as any principle, although its portability is hard to see…

All principles are portable, just like fractals. That is the nature of reality: as above so is below, or was that the other way around?

If it is true, a real principle, not just a made up rule, it is true everywhere, but to recognize it you need to be able to connect the dots.

Connecting the dots requires you to have a wide cone of vision, so you can compare the two phenomenon in the same glance, or alternatively, have enough long term memory to store an image that you can compare with.

Most people never committed anything to long term memory, and even the capacity for storing something for long term has atrophied.
Another way to look at long term memory is looking an measuring how many things you can hold in your brain at any one time.
For most people (8 billion) that is one thing…

That means that when they change what they look at, what they looked at disappears. So they cannot compare two things that are not inside the same cone of vision.

The size of your long term memory, interestingly, will decide what size box you live in.

It takes me just one short interaction to know that… what you talk about indicates the size of your box.

What’s wrong with a small box, you ask? Nothing WRONG, but it is limiting. You cannot dance, you cannot have adventure, you have locked yourself in with the few people who are probably wretched and no fun.

Your love of animals, interestingly, shows that you are not fulfilled in your small box… But it only indicates, it doesn’t remedy… the size of the box you live in will not grow without serious effort.

Pain.
While I was an architect, my box got smaller… uncomfortable. While I was in Landmark Education, my box got smaller… very limiting.
Breaking out of those small boxes was painful, scary, and
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consciousness

you hear everywhere, consciousness this, consciousness that, but it is not clear what consciousness is.

This is not a scientific definition, this, the glossary, this is how I mean consciousness in my articles, in my webinars in my courses.

Consciousness is a combination of what you are aware of, what aspect of you is looking, or aware of what you are aware of, and where you are standing when you are aware.

Therefore consciousness is an in-between and how, instead of a thing.

It could be said that there is lower consciousness and higher consciousness, depending on this relationship between the aware part and the thing of which that part is aware of.

If you are aware with a part of you that is intent on making you look better than you are, obviously we could assess that that is lower consciousness.

The highest consciousness is when the aware part is your Observer, when the relationship is proactive and not reactive, and when you are in a position where you can also see your organizing principle… i.e. the possibility based open being, like I am a winner, I am free, I am the Edison of Transformation.

Example:

the what: people doing what they said they would do, or not
the part that is aware: the mind
the position: the mind

When people do what they said they would do, I would be happy and gratified, but when they don’t, I would be angry and devastated, or self-righteous… horrible feelings.
the what: people doing what they said they would do, or not
the part that is aware: the Observer, the Self
the position: the Observer

Whether people are doing what they said they would do, or not, the Observer, the Self is OK: the invented context: I am the Edison of Transformation considers what’s happening is just what’s happening, and not an evaluation, not a judgment of what I am doing: it is normal for anything to fail, in fact success is a rare exception in every endeavor.

My mood and well being is steady and I am not disempowered by what’s happening.

This is what we call highest consciousness. It is achievable by everyone, but it takes work, building skills, and practicing. It’s worth it.

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Vibrational Review: Quantum K: free healing using harmonics, fractal geometry and focused intent.

Vibrational Review: Quantum K: free healing using harmonics, fractal geometry and focused intent.

Vibration of modality: 220
Truth value: 150

The Quantum K experience

Let me measure your vibration?Click on the link to request a vibrational reading…The Map of Consciousness will show you what it means.
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At any moment you are either growing or you are dying

At any moment you are either growing or you are dying… but how do you go from dying into growing again?
You can plan for survival, and you can plan for growth

The most important difference, from your point of view is this:

When you plan for survival, every setback threatens you with death, or poverty, lack, illness or shame.

When you plan for growth, every setback is a new opportunity to use your skills to now grow from this new level.
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aikido

Aikido is a certain style of Japanese martial art, more a way of living that anything.

Here are the principles of aikido: pay attention, it is an amazingly sound way to live:

Extending Your Mind: The extension of ones mind is directly connected to the extension of Ki. A person who extends their mind becomes aware of everything around them and naturally extends Ki. A person who extends Ki, naturally extends their mind.

Know Your Partner’s Mind: To know your partners mind is to know your partners “intentions”. This can only be achieved with the free extension of Ki.

Respect Your Partner’s Ki: From a self defense stand point, respecting your partner’s Ki would be to blend with an attack rather than meeting it head on. In daily life you can think of this as respecting someone’s opinion and not dismissing them out of hand. (In evolutionary language, this is cooperation instead of competition, leading to both surviving, instead of both dying.)

Put Yourself In Your Partner’s Place: In Aikido this can literally mean swapping places with someone. In daily life it is the same. We consider how we would feel if we were the person in a difficult situation. It is more than empathy: empathy is passive, this is active: you move your Self to behind your opponent’s eye balls and look at what you are doing, saying, from over there.

Perform With Confidence: A person who has no confidence will always hesitate and perform poorly. This is true in Aikido as in daily life. When a person performs with true confidence they are relaxed, focused and fully aware. Confidence is not a feeling; it is an attitude. You have 100% control over your attitude, although you may have to learn to control yourself, and your behavior. Practice of honoring your word as yourself is the key to controlling your attitude.

Ki or Chi is Life Force within you.
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aikido principles

Principles of Aikido
True Victory is Victory Over Oneself
One must first learn to control oneself before attempting to harmonize and control others. Without a good balance and control of oneself, one can neither avoid an attack nor apply an effective technique on others. It is through self-control that one can learn to enjoy a harmonious way of life.
Principle of Oneness
In order to harmonize with the laws of nature, we must first learn to develop and maintain the right attitude of training. We must always keep the attitude of becoming one with every situation. This is an attitude of respect for all things at all times. Regardless of the situation, friend or foe, one must always be ready to harmonize. The right attitude greatly affects the efficiency of the action. It is not how strong, but rather how correct you are that counts. This concept of oneness will make it possible for anyone regardless of age or sex to perform the arts efficiently.
Principle of Circular Motion
The spiritual circle is the foundation of all Aikido techniques. Circular movement synthesizes everything and can freely resolve all problems. The innermost study of the circular motion is to develop new techniques from the center of the circle. Aikido techniques are combinations of circular movements. Regardless of the ways the opponent attacks, linear or angular, a circular motion centered at your lower abdomen, hara, will naturally blend with the attack so that you can execute a controlling art with efficiency. The centripetal force will draw the opponent into your range of effectiveness so that the centrifugal force can eject him effectively. All circular motions are preceded by a spiritual circle. The spiritual circle is the circle drawn within one’s mind before the execution of the physical circle.
Range of Effectiveness
The best way to defend yourself against an attack is to get out of the opponent’s range of effectiveness. You can step off the line of force, move out of the opponent’s radius of reach or step inside of the circle of attack. However, in order to be able to control an attacker, one must remain well within his/her own range of effectiveness at the same time he/she is moving out of the attacker’s range of effectiveness. Barely reaching the attacker will not give the defender full advantage for he/she will be over extended and off balance. Being too close to the attacker could also hinder one’s effectiveness. Depending on the situation, one must learn to realize the range of effectiveness of that moment.
Principle of Ki
Ki is the force behind all things. Everything in the universe has Ki. Ki is the essence of our world. It is the basis of all matter, every phenomenon, emotion, sense, direction, will, consciousness and conscience. Ki is also an energy which can be very useful in our daily lives when used properly. Ki is our life force which keeps us alive. Ki is the binding force of our mind and body. We can be very efficient if we unify our mind and
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allowing

allowing means: put up NO resistance. Liking or not liking, loving or not loving have nothing to do with resistance. Resistance is activated by fear and self-preservation, including the false self: your opinions, your world view, what you think of yourself and the world.

Allowing means: to make room for, let it in. It doesn’t mean agreeing with it. It doesn’t mean changing yourself or your views to accommodate it. It means: making room for without trying to kill it first.
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Are you my ideal customer? How did you find my site?


Summary: Now that I have lost my main source of income, I am back to the planning stage. I am back to finding out how to reach people who want what I have to offer: Energy remedies for peace of mind, freedom, power, and are willing to work for it at the same time, instead of waiting for a miracle or a pill or a magic bullet.

I am not often confronted. Being confronted always means that something or someone has breached the separation between your hidden self and your fake self.

You hide the stuff that you don’t think will work in the world, that will not buy you the image or goodies you want, the affection, appreciation, the job, the friends, the money.

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