Or what weight you carry so that you can’t climb the Tree of Life, until you put it down?
Have you noticed that making permanent changes, doing new things, doing things in a new way, going to places unfamiliar is difficult for you, near impossible?
Consider that you are dragging a persona with you. That persona is what makes the going so difficult, so encumbered… Continue reading Steal back your future
What gives you being/acting in the present is the future you live into.
I learned that sentence in Landmark Education. And until today it was pretty much just a sentence, that I could not explain to any of my students. I will write about this until I GET IT! lol… how is that for authenticity?
This morning I was watching a TED video with Benjamin Hardy –>. He says somewhere: “Since 2015, my articles have been read between 50 and 100 million times. Nearly 400000 people subscribe to my weekly newsletter.” His vibration is 170, he has 2 spiritual capacities open, his stuff’s truth value is 3%: it is all tree of knowledge. But his stuff resonates with people. Continue reading How to have a different future than your past has been?
When you love yourself: you love your life. And that is the closest we know to be a happy person.
And you want to be happy, right? It feels like your birthright. Even though I can’t specifically point at anyone who is happy… it IS your birthright.
Birthright or not birthright, we all want to be happy… even though no one has been able to explain how to become happy… so it seems that it will remain a desire… never to be fulfilled. Hope and hopeless… or resigned is our dominant state.
The closest experience to happiness is contentment, with life, with yourself.
Continue reading How to fall in love with yourself… the narrow and strait path to happiness
Conceited
The dictionary meaning is only part of the story (excessively proud of oneself; vain)
The most important part of the story is revealed in relationships. Relationship to others, and relationship to tasks.
When I look, the people who are conceited are delusional… delusional in their relationships to people and things. In comparison.
They compare themselves to others and they are, as a fixed attitude, not as an experience, superior to them. And they compare themselves to things… and they are superior to them, as an attitude, not as an experience. Continue reading Conceited… where does it come from?
The obvious answers are that it is your past that makes you who you are. What happened to you. What was your education, your upbringing, your genes, your environment.
And all that seems to make you who you are today, and if you are anything like the people I deal with, day in and day out, you are not happy with who you are, how you are.
Why? How you are doesn’t get you the life you have always wanted, the accomplishments, the joy, the intimacy, the love, the care you wanted.
You are is put together, while who you are is diligently covered up. Continue reading What makes you who you are today?
… and by “right” attitude I mean the attitude that gets you what you wanted from life through coaching or learning from a teacher.
Most people don’t.
Why? My guess is an attitude issue… but the attitude issue is caused by something deeper.
But for now let’s see what programs, teachers, coaches do or not do to weed out people who would not be the right match.
I did a training program twice when I was in Landmark Education. The introduction leaders program. Seven months bootcamp. Intense. Hard. Continue reading What is the right attitude when being coached or being taught by a teacher?
What is the difference between most people’s, programs’ approach to helping people, and mine?
I spent the past day studying, listening to several books, articles on how to cause ‘stuff’ and what struck me is that every approach, every method was valuable, except… Except they were fixed.
Once a human finds something that seems to be working, on a small scale, on themselves, for example, they get stuck… now they teach that, and don’t go beyond.
Whether it is about how to get rich, how to conquer fear, how the mind works, how to become the obvious expert, how to make marketing effective, etc… they stop probing deeper, and they teach what they had gotten.
I just listened to an essay on the fallacy of obviousness… on the theory that won the Nobel Prize in economics for Daniel Kahneman. Continue reading What is the difference between others’ methods and mine?
Updated
It seems that many people are stuck in a profession they don’t like. And also many people don’t have a profession and are afraid to pick one.
Among my students we have both kinds…
Interestingly there is some commonality in the underlying attitudes.
One attitude is something I could call stingy, but it may not be the right word.
The commonality is: I want certainty, guarantees BEFORE I’d do anything. Continue reading Breaking into a new field… how to do it right… or wrong
One of the capacities an architect needs to possess if they want to be a good architect is being able to move their attention at will, and to widen and narrow their field of vision at will.
Interestingly, these are the capacities that are needed for a lot of professions, CPA, business leader, politician, scientist, movie maker, coach, and, although it is not a profession, for someone who wants to get out of the morass of the human condition, and onto the vertical plane of clarity, joy, fulfillment.
I won’t explain why you need these capacities for the professions although I could.
Because the business I am in is taking people to the vertical plane, so I am interested in people practicing, using these capacities.
‘Enlightenment’ is the word other people use for what I am attempting to do here. Continue reading What prevents you from getting what you want?
One of the measures in my Starting Point Measurements –> is how many bits of information, how many balls you can keep in the air at the same time.
Most people can only keep one ball, reliably, in the air. The moment something better, exciting shows up, they drop it… If they start juggling two,they drop both off…
Off course I am not talking about juggling, I am talking about ideas, concepts, distinctions, projects… the kind you hold in your head.
The work we need to do to untangle the tangled wires of our emotions, the 13th, the 14th, and the 15th floor, needs you to be able to see and hold more than one ball in the air.
Even just managing your life to become a successful life, as I suggested, managing it like a business, needs you to juggle quite a few things, and not drop any. If you ARE in business, and it’s not as successful and as interesting as you hoped it was going to be, this is the reason: you drop the balls. Continue reading How many balls, ideas, projects can you keep in the air?