Everyone can get to the good life, but not everyone will get to the good life. Why? Because not everyone is willing to do what they need to do to get to the good life.
Tai Lopez said that. What he didn’t say: you need to go beyond where you are comfortable, so you’ll need a second wind.
And it is true on certain conditions.
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How do you go about awakening compassion, caring and empathy?
The first step of transformation, and awakening a missing capacity is transformation!, is to tell the truth about how it is now.
Transformation is so rare, because people are unwilling to tell the truth. Why? Because truth, any truth about you, will first be painful, and it will piss you off.
The truth about you is that you, the way you are, are unable to feel for another person. You mistake your loin’s yearning, your heart’s yearning for connection to a feeling for the other, but they are not the same.
At this point only a handful of people are able to feel, feel deeply for another person.
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Sometimes when you poke around you find stuff you didn’t want to find, didn’t want to know, you’d rather not know. But if you know it, if you are willing to face it: you have a new lease on life… So read it.
This article will lose a good percentage of my readers, it’s so sacra-religious, it’s so profoundly upsetting.
I am guided to watch movies, especially hit TV series. It is hard to tell what I am going to see, while I am watching them, hours after hours, on Netflix, but I know how it works, and I know that unless I start to see stuff that my life isn’t giving an insight into, I will not be able to distinguish for you all the ways that the enslavement, that caused you to be miserable, does its job.
This article is about the family. It’s about how family is used to enslave you.
You receive lasting Light only if your desire is a desire to receive for the sake of sharing, not a desire to receive for the self alone… But the big mystery of how the heck you can desire to receive for the sake of sharing. Some people have found a way… but not THE way…
Life, and desiring is a lot like walking the tight rope. You lean either way too much and you fall off.
I have had a lot of experience falling off, both sides. So I know.
The secret of walking without falling is
awareness of where you are leaning… not easy.
conscious ability to direct your attention
wide cone of vision
certainty… some call it faith.
Why Am I Miserable? Why You Are Miserable? The Most Binding Agreements Are The Ones You Never Made
I had a session with a client. The conversation went to one of my ‘favorite’ topics: why wives stop wanting intimacy after the children are born.
This is a big issue for men, and destroys many marriages.
Most of you come to me for confirmation. Confirmation that what you know is true, that who you are and how you “do” life is ok…
A handful of you are somewhat open.
Now, I don’t say that you know this about yourself… this article is to wake you up, to bring awareness to this, so you can be conscious of it.
I grew up communist, atheist, so when I left Hungary in 1982, I went to Israel to find out what it means to be Jewish. Honestly, I didn’t like any of it… It wasn’t for me… all that tradition, or alternatively all that worldliness…
I came the the US, and at some point I started to study Kabbalah with the Kabbalah Centre… Kabbalah is an incomprehensible vague oral tradition, wide open to interpretation, and thus, for most people it is quite useless. Mystical, yeah… but… mystical for a purpose is poison to your soul.
The study of Kabbalah used to be limited to men over 40. Why? because younger men, and women are more result oriented.
Result oriented is good… you would say if you live in our culture, that is what you are supposed to be, right?
Sometimes having someone to talk to, someone who can listen, instead of trying to solve your problems, is the best thing that can happen to you.
But there are things that are hard to share.
And then, if you are the one who is supposed to be there for others, no one expects you to have problems, or to be there for you. You are alone, and that is that.
All my life I have been the strong one, and no one ever expected me to need them to listen to me. So when I needed someone to listen, I had to pay them. It’s expensive. And now I don’t even trust anyone to just listen… so it’s tough.
One of the biggest challenges for me on the path is to stay in the middle. Neither left nor right…
Neither too egotistic, nor self-cheating.
Neither too buoyant nor down in the dumps.
Neither accepting nor refusing credit.
Neither too nice nor too rude to people and myself.
After publishing the previous article on feeling lethargic, I had an insight:
Given that 30% of humanity is plagued with mite infestation, microscopic biting mites, you are always bothered.
You can’t sleep through the night, because almost every night there is a 2-hour period when eggs hatch into worms… worms that cause itching, or when hungry mites hatch, and they bite and crawl their way to your head and ears to start their adult lives, to mate, to lay eggs, that will start the cycle in about 22-26 hours.
I know you don’t want to hear it, but eventually you’ll have to hear it.
