Some of my students are starting to see that if they didn’t have the self-concern: The ITCH, they would react to life differently, they would be less upset, they would have a life, maybe, worth living.
So how does this work?
When you are in reality, things are as they are. A is A.It is what it is.
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I woke up with a start. OMG… The switch… or the pebble… or whatever I called it!
The invisible dynamics is a system. It is like a machine. A complex machine… It takes in life as it could be, and it spits out your life as it is, having sucked all the juice out of it. Really.
That is the machine.
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So I am listening to the “itch” calls from 2014, and I am mortified at the level of transformation… It is near zero.
Sometimes I put the cart in front of the horse…
The insight (the horse) on the two selves that unless they become a team, no transformation can happen, came since I did those amazing Itch calls in 2014… so no wonder that the results are missing…
What am I talking about?
Your machine, your particular machine, was built based on an incident. Or better said: a decision you made by you (or accepted about yourself) as a child.
So far so good… but the process doesn’t stop there.
There is a series of “therefores”… behaviors, that come from that early decision, and all of them are ugly. Fake. Pretentious. All try to fix what wasn’t true to begin with.
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One of the things people have a difficulty with, in my experience, is creating a vision for their lives.
When I ask what they want, what they are up to, they draw a blank.
And even when and if they have some answer, it is not something that even if they got it, would make them happy, fulfilled, joyful, connected, loved, etc.
Every aspect of you has a different ‘agenda’…
these all want something different… and you, who you consider yourself to be: you are like the person in the middle of the ball game where the ball is thrown in a circle, past you… and you are always left without a ball. Continue reading If you don’t know what you want…
I woke up with the question: if circumstances changed, would I be happier? Would YOU be happier?
I asked Source, and the answer was a surprising no.
How come, you ask? Isn’t that I am not happy because of things in my life, in the world? things that frustrate me, anger me, drive me crazy?
My health, for example. My neighbors. Workmen that cause almost as much damage as service.
And every question Source answers with a resounding no.
WTF?! Continue reading Why changing your circumstances won’t make a difference for you…
Some of my Playground students are starting to see that if they didn’t have the ITCH, they would react to life differently, they would be less upset, they would have a life, maybe, worth living.
So how does this work?
When you are in reality, things are as they are. A is A.
Ayn Rand was widely hated for this statement, but of course if you life like A should be B, then you would hate her, instead of looking to see: is A really A? What have I hijacked it with and what is the trigger?
The questions intelligent people would ask. Continue reading Take away the ITCH and what is left?
Once you distinguish something, you start seeing it everywhere… not only where you expect it, but really everywhere. This is done by something called the reticular activator or reticular activating system –>.
I teach distinctions, distinguishing, and my students are reluctant to learn and start seeing… Until you see it everywhere, everything is still about you… and no transformation can take place.
The new distinction I have learned from a set of books by Hungarian engineer, Gyozo Margóczi –>, is that all emotions are created by words, even though feelings are not… Feelings are a little pressure here, tightness there… no meaning. There is a feeling and then you add a word, and you get emotion. Depending on the word you add, the emotion changes.
Here is the with the corresponding feelings… Continue reading Scientists are trying to keep you on the 15th floor of your being. Emotional Intelligence Part One
We all have it… unnoticed, unidentified, undistinguished, sneaking past your conscious awareness, the strings that make you a puppet on a string, robbing you of your life, using it for its own purposes… laughing at you. I can hear the laugh.
It is a machine… and it is powered by an unfulfilled and unfillable desire, I call The Itch… the itch that cannot be scratched.
The desire for attention, for significance, for winning every transaction, for love, for filling your gaping hole inside. Continue reading Why it is normal to be miserable: the itch you are trying to scratch
I sleep poorly the night before every Playground session. It takes me hours to fall asleep, and I have trouble filled dreams.
So when I got up this past Saturday, it was freezing cold, in the single digits outside… single digits in Fahrenheit is very cold… double digits in the minus in Celsius.
So I pondered what I had to look forward that day.
For a long time, for years, when I looked, when I asked that question, I only saw one thing to look forward to: my morning tea. Rich British Blend Tetley with full fat milk… Continue reading Unless you define what is success for you, you can’t become successful
