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Validation Challenge


Because 95-97% of humans live as an object in a world of objects, they can’t see you as a person. They see you as they are…

So they can’t…

In my Validation Challenge where you have only one job: as you go about your life in the world and find something to notice, something of value, in people, whether you know them or not.

When people start out in the challenge, all they can see is what they don’t like. Then occasionally they can see something they like. That is still all about them.

The also want to get a response… they want what they say to land as flattering… that is also all about them.

Eventually, some of them will start seeing some value… just because they are looking hard for something to see.

Obviously, given the limited perspective of the human mind, you can only see what you are yourself…
Done over time, hunting and finding something of value to see, people notice that their affinity for themselves, their treatment of themselves shifts… and at least occasionally they are not an object in a world of object, but a person in a world of persons.
Priceless.

How long does it take?

Muscletest says: at least 90 days. Current participants in the challenge paid $45 to be in it… to be tracked every day, given feedback.

Should I extend it to 90 days? Muscletest says: yeah. Let me connect to MY FUTURE SELF and see what ‘it’ says: Its answer was weeping. weeping with joy, weeping because of being moved.

Is it a good financial decision? I don’t know. Not very… not if I consider that my rate is $250 an hour… or should be. But would I be willing to do this work free if it worked? hell yeah. Absolutely.

So shall I ask people to pay another $45 every 30 days? Muscletest says: yes.

Is it worth for the participants?

Hey, if it takes someone 90 days and 135 bucks to become someone who can live as a person in a world of people who consider you and themselves a thing…
I’ve been living there for some time, and I can still remember the difference.
One of the things has been obvious to me lately, given the political climate of the United States: I can be friends with Trump followers, Trump fanboys and fangirls… who spout the same nonsense their fuhrer says in his many utterances.

And I can be friends with them. I gently say: let’s change the topic when they get on their soap box, and we can be friends. I can see the good, the valuable in them and have room for what I don’t consider valuable.

And that attitude, that ability carries over to many areas of life. I am the same way with myself: I now have room for my failings or imperfections. I can be friends with myself. I can be friends with the world, with Covid, with winter, with the deer in my backyard, with living in the fifth poorest community among large metropolitan areas in the United States. Syracuse, NY is also one of the most boring cities… suits me perfectly. I like what other people find boring… I don’t need outside stimulation.

There is a Hungarian song
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Inner peace… aka completion. Is it possible for you?

Inner Peace is elusive. It’s elusive like health.
What do you call peace? The lack of war? What do you call health? Lack of illness?

Imagine that you are walking in a forest, on a footpath on a beautiful summer day. The birds are chirping. There is a slight breeze. There is peace. And you may know that animals are hunting, eating another, and yet there is peace.
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Why aren’t you the captain of your ship? How could you be?

Why aren’t you the captain of your life? And how could you be?

Or how to go from drifting to achieving…

In this article I am going to give you the secret. The secret to success. The secret to a good life. And you probably won’t hear it… and ignore it.

How do I know? I have been doing it long enough that I finally distilled the secret down to the one issue that if it is there, you cannot be successful. AND you can’t hear me. The two are connected.
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Vibrational Review: what is enlightenment adyashanti

If I understand correctly, Adyashanti is a guy’s name…

Personal vibration: 90
What he teaches: 90

why so low? Because the guy is talking all Tree of Knowledge, something he has never experienced. I could say he is talking out of his arse, but when I listen to him, I can hear this: he is talking out of his memory, and his self-righteous and self-assured “self” which is a very very very low vibration.

Who does he attract? like attracts like, and he attracts people just like himself. What is the common characteristic of the people who are attracted to what he is saying? He is explaining that enlightenment is not a 24/7 bliss… and yet, the people that he attracts are the MacDonald’s wholesale transformation forever hoping types.

Do not bother listening to him.

Now, a few words from me, and where I am speaking from is the nothing that is outside of the MIND (not ego as he says) and from personal experience through connecting to all-of-it.

There is no 24/7 bliss.

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If it is to be, it is up to me… but is it really?

‘If it is to be, it is up to me’ The horizontal and vertical dimensions of life

Most people interpret that statement, that declaration, in a rah-rah, motivational slogan way.

But even when they use that narrow interpretation, they don’t commit to it, they don’t lock themselves in, they don’t burn the ships, they leave a back-door open, although they never tell the truth about it.

They have a secret addendum: if I feel like it, if my mind agrees, when I’ll feel confident enough, if the weather is nice, if it’s easy, if it doesn’t take too much of my time.

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Life is a system of seesaws, little hinges swing big doors

What is the real meaning of little hinges swing big doors? What glorious thing can it mean to you and your entrepreneurial aspirations?

Without understanding that life is a collection of interactive systems, without understanding the seesaw principle, without being able to create, manage, and tweak systems. your life will work as it has always worked. just barely…
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Stuck? Playing a small game? Waiting for a miracle? Get unstuck using my methods

Some people are motivated (put into motion) by negative emotions, like fear, hate, refusing something with so much energy that it finally puts them in motion: until then they cannot get unstuck.

Other people are motivated by accomplishment, joy, love, freedom, or some other positive event or emotion.

The problem is how to crank up the energy of the emotion, negative or positive, so there is enough energy in it to put you in motion, to get unstuck.

The enemy of any forward movement is complacency, cynicism, resignation. These are real strong energies. If we wanted to express their effect, they are like a ton of weight on the see-saw. If you want to make the see-saw move, you need to pile up the weight on the other side.

Most people leave this to chance, hope that something will move them from dead center to get unstuck.

Other people cause breakdowns to get unstuck.

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One of MY teachers speaks; I wish I had thought of it myself: Why It’s Dangerous To Give Advice

Why It’s Dangerous To Give Advice by Roy H. Williams, the Wizard of AdsĀ®
I am, by profession, a communications consultant. I craft strategies, write ads and buy media. My clients ask for my advice. They even pay me for it.

Advice is dangerous to give.

If you are thinking, “Yes, it’s dangerous to give advice because your advice might be wrong,” you probably haven’t worked full-time in a focused specialty for 30 years. Yes, there is a chance my advice might be wrong, but that’s not the principal danger.

Advice is always dangerous because a person only needs it when:

they’re making decisions based on incorrect assumptions.
they made a mistake that triggered unhappy repercussions.
they’re looking at a situation from an unproductive angle.

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Why are most self-help books, courses worthless?

Why are most self-help books, courses worthless?

Worthless other than being boring? lol…

They bore the heck out of me… but that is my problem, I guess.

The reason they are worthless because they talk about what to do, but they never teach about consolidation.

My teacher in creating courses taught that the first session needs to give people a quick big win… so they get excited and stay in the course.
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