Happiness is a function of accepting what is. Reality.
Love is accepting the other exactly the way they are and exactly the way they aren’t.
If you pay attention, deeply, both statements talk about what is and what isn’t.
Love mention what isn’t… Isn’t in reality, because it only exists in the mind, as an expectation.
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The Desire Trap and how to release it… A life with greed, want, desire, or resistance cannot be a happy life
The book Feelings writes at length about the Desire Trap,
Quoting from the Feelings book by Margoczi:
Although the desire trap may look harmless at first sight, this is the trap the most people suffer from around the world.
If, and when you manage to get out from behind your own eyeballs, you make someone happy… what just happened?
I have been alive for 75 years. I have experienced being made happy, made proud, only a few times.
What makes anyone happy is when what they do is acknowledged as useful. When they find that they were instrumental is someone else’s success, or happiness.
Not what you thought?
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In this article I take you through a whole range of emotions to get to a clearing. Just like taking you through a dense forest… But there is a pot of gold in the forest’s clearing… so it is worth wading your way through, I promise.
If you play by the rules you lose
Very interesting observation: British writers, also British films are honest about corruption, about people talking about the rules but not keeping them.
So today I am going to talk about something I have never talked about… In fact I have never thought.
People really don’t know that they are next.
Last night I had a conversation with myself and Source.
As I shared in my previous post, I have lived my whole life based on an untrue assumption that I was living on borrowed time, and at any time it can be taken away.
I saw that life needs to be set up in a way that matches that base assumption: don’t own anything, travel lightly, don’t get attached, don’t… don’t… don’t…
Don’t love deeply…
All to avoid personal loss. Because all can be taken away in a heartbeat.
It’s not that ‘they’ rob you, you are preemptive: you don’t allow you to have anything.
This sums up my life pretty accurately.
So, the conversation, last night, was about what was the biggest missing that I can put back in now.
We settled on joi de vivre (French for ‘joy of living’, joy of being alive). Source said I can have it.
Activating a feeling and a behavior consistently delivering that feeling is much like activating a capacity after it is turned on… it takes attention, awareness, and action.
Of course, you don’t quite know what action, but you’ll see it.
It started when I jumped under the frigid covers on my bed, cold, miserable, panting.
Then I had the thought that I could actually enjoy it, feel it, like an adventure. I could allow joi de vivre to call the day, not the shock of the cold covers.
That I had a choice.
As it turns out, ‘joy of life’ or even simply joy or happiness is a choice.
It doesn’t come from the circumstance, it comes from within… the willingness to pay attention to what is enjoyable, while having room, having permission for the not enjoyable to be there as well.
You can’t have joy if your attention is on trying to will away what you don’t like.
You can’t have joy if you simply tolerate what you don’t like.
And, of course you can’t have joy if you are just surviving what you are going through.
You can’t have joy unless you allow what is, and then find something enjoyable in the situation.
I have been really good at finding funny in situations. And now I can add: finding the enjoyable.
28 years ago I was really depressed when the phone rang. A person I didn’t know called. The conversation went in unexpected ways: she suggested that I would benefit from attending ACOA, adult children of alcoholics. No one drinks in my family… but when she read to me the symptoms, they fit.
The first and most important symptom is ‘I don’t know what fun is’
I didn’t know what people meant by fun. I am, just now, starting to see, that what people call fun is the enjoyment of what one is doing, what one is experiencing, in the moment.
But what people call fun all comes from the belief that fun is a result of something outside of you, something you do, something you take or eat or drink.
So it is not joy… Joy is a result of choice. Choosing where to put the attention, while allowing everything else to remain the same. Choosing is finding. Finding something to enjoy.
Joy is NOT addictive. Fun
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Just like a company, shrinking looks like a good way to increase profitability.
But business may be (it isn’t) about profitability, but life isn’t.
When someone asks me what is the surest path to Expanding Human Being, I always bring up Bob the Butler. Or the quote and principle from the Neal Stephenson book: Diamond Age. Start living an interesting life. When your goal is not to win every step of the way, it is not to shrink to the size that you can manage, but to grow through trials and failures to the sky: i.e. an interesting life.
A sleep doctor says 4 types of animals represent how people sleep — and these are the ideal daily routines for each
When it comes to health and productivity, it’s not just about what you do — eating right, exercising, and working hard — it’s also about when you do it.
Chronobiology is the study of internal clocks, how they differ among people, and how you can adjust your daily schedule to suit your unique biological rhythm. Each person’s rhythm, or chronotype, is different.
According to psychologist and sleep specialist Dr. Michael Breus, there are four chronotypes, which he labels dolphins, lions, bears, and wolves. Roughly half the population is made up of bears; the rest is split among dolphins, lions, and wolves.
Breus’ website includes a diagnostic quiz readers can take to try to identify their chronotype.
In Breus’ book “The Power of When,” he outlines the ideal daily routine for each chronotype. Below, you’ll find the highlights of those schedules.
Keep in mind that it’s virtually impossible to have a perfect day every day, so make the changes you realistically can.
reprinted from Business Insider
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Summary: In this article I am going to illustrate to you how something evolves, as opposed to being born…
I will illustrate to you the thought process it takes to move something from good to better to better and even better… There is no such thing as best in this thought process. This is the foundation of an Expanding Human Being: there is no limit to expanding, neither in the mind nor in the reality of the Original Design. And I’ll share the breakthrough we had in raising your vibration.
When I came to this country at age 38, I was much like you in a lot of ways. One of the thngs that I remember vividly is my relationship to improvement. If a product label said “improved”, my thought was “that means it wasn’t good before, and probably isn’t good now… so I won’t get it.”I still lived in the mind, and the mind does not like improvement, it doesn’t like change. If something is good, then it is good, no need for improvement… Bah humbug.
When I was an architecture students, I learned two things that became totally useful regardless of the field I applied them. One of these is what I learned from my famed History of Architecture professor: He shared that when he graduated as an architect, he went to work in a theater, instead of the field of design or construction.
Did you, have you asked yourself the question why I have such a long list of measures in the Starting Point Measurements?
After all, there was a time when I only offered your vibration number and your soul correction… wasn’t that enough?
Maybe yes, maybe no.
The more ways I get to look at you and give you feedback the more potential access you have to actually turn your life around, and become an expanding human being.
After all, when you say that you want to raise your vibration, that is what you are saying: that you want to become an expanding human being.
Of course you also want to feel better, be happier, healthier, and have better relationships, but given the nature of the beast, given the culture we all live in, feeling better, be a little happier, little healthier, maybe even have better relationships is still going to be not enough.
Without Integrity Nothing Works. Sounds Good. Sounds Weird. It’s True! But Why?
I am borrowing that phrase, “without integrity nothing works” from Landmark.
It’s a catchy slogan. When things aren’t working, you can look where is your integrity, you put it back in, or not, and that’s that. Life either starts working or not.
Yeah, but why? Why would integrity matter?
