If you know you are stuck… stuck in a rut, stuck in a behavior, in a cycle, in a predictable outcome, or maybe you are stuck on a plateau… What you may want to consider that you need energy to move away from that place.
In this article I’ll show you two methods to create the energy to move.
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Boys… I used to want to be a boy.
They seem unperturbed. They laugh a lot.
Today I prefer to be a woman. But as a child I really KNEW something was missing, and for years I thought it was cut off…
I really love this picture. It tells me that boys have more fun.
I remember sitting on the potty waiting for my navel to burst. And I knew it was only a matter of time. I KNEW that I was mutilated below, and I was mutilated there. Although I didn’t know what was cut off, I knew that whatever it was I needed it.
I was 3-4 years old. My feet didn’t touch the ground yet.
I knew I wasn’t welcome, I knew that boys had more of everything. They were loved more. And knew it was permanent.
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One of the transformational moves I use with my students is ‘flipping the context.’
Context is decisive, and the context inside which you live your life is what makes your life great or horrible… not what happens to you.
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Today’s article will be illustrated differently. I’ll use unrelated funny pictures… like the New Yorker magazine does.
Why? One of the ways I have opened up my tiny box is reading humorists’ take on the world. See the funny in everything. In every single thing.
Another way to open up your small box is to read, watch good movies or TV series from different cultures.
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My article writing teacher says that the way to write a good article is to have three topics and let people know what they are, ahead of time.
This is the same dude who takes three months of vacation every year… maybe he knows something most don’t, and therefore it is worth listening to him?
So here are the three topics:
1. work-life balance: how the masses are wrong
2. your straitjacket… a detrimental early decision
3. what you eat… how it makes you ill or keeps you well.
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Let’s begin where it began…
I have shared one of my experiments in an early stage: healing my stomach damage and my acid reflux…
After many decades of stomach trouble, and about a decade of nasty heartburn independent of what I ate, I realized that unless I do something, it is going to kill me or I’ll wish it did.
So I asked Source and Source suggested that maybe I have the dreaded stomach bacteria…
Bacteria? I have a remedy for that.
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This article slipped by a lot of people. And today where I keep talking about the small actions that cause and then cement your epigenetic shift, this article is more important than it was a year ago when I first wrote it. Onto the article…
… in Neal Stephenson’s novel ‘Reamde’ he remarks that affluent parts of all cities are similar, but poor parts of cities are miserable in their own way.
What causes success, and what causes failure? Or we could say, what causes affluence, and what perpetuates poverty?
It’s habits. It’s the thing you do (or not do), day in and day out. The things you take care of and the things you don’t.
But if you look, a habit you see are only the tip of the iceberg… maintaining it, keeping it permanently, unchangeably in place.
Part 1: the empath
If you have to suffer, make it meaningful. It will hurt less
Empaths have a glitch in their brain, I say, that makes that feel not only their own bad emotions, but others’ as well.
I didn’t know I was an empath until the year 2000. I was 53 years old. And I hadn’t known such a thing existed. I thought what I felt was all mine. And I suffered. For a decade or so I was under doctor’s care, often hospitalized.
I had some indicators I can see with 20/20 hindsight, but I still thought nothing of them.
Whenever, wherever I was around or near horny people, I felt what they felt. Horrible, if you ask me.
And when my doctors wanted to shock me out of my bad state, and I refused treatment, they resorted to send me to the cold showers and that allowed me to feel myself only for a bit… and I was ‘cured’.
Humans feel horrible feelings and I have to feel their feelings.
I have been thinking about this: if you are condemned to suffer, maybe your job is to make it useful so you don’t suffer in vain.
Lots of people have done that… people with horrid diseases, addictions, etc. But they did it AFTER they got rid of the pain…
For an empath there is no getting rid of the pain. But if you don’t train yourself to be a true empath, like a precise instrument. To know how to connect reliably to a person, they it is just vague horrid pain… for no reason. Like my mother’s beatings: I never knew what I did wrong, she never told me. Something I did made her angry and she beat me… What made her angry? I have no idea.
My mother was an empath too… unaware, untrained, unpredictable.
I think being an empath is an aberration… not something that is supposed to be.
If you know that what you feel is another’s feeling they you are not an empath, you are a ‘sensitive’… Empaths feel others’ feelings as their own: anger, despair, grief, for no reason… I have to muscletest if a feeling is mine…
If you learn nothing else: learn to muscletest that. If it is not yours, then you can ignore it.
The body won’t… it will still be stiff. The stress won’t… it will still ravage your body. But your brain, your attention, your mood, and your ability to do life and you’ll free up your energy and ability to do work.
Other extrasensory perception people see and hear things, they say, that I say don’t exist, are not real.
And yet they hallucinate. Imagine. Tell you what you want to hear.
I was duped out of my paycheck by one of those some 57 years ago in Budapest…
One of the challenges of being a true empath is that you feel what is going on in another person’s body, while they may not feel it.
I have a client/student who told me yesterday that all his life he told himself to ignore, block the feelings, so he doesn’t appear weak.
But he has a veritable snowstorm inside… and now he is starting to feel it too.
Feelings, even emotions are guiding…
Part 2: the words
Emotions come from words. All
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Changing your future: what is the challenge on the seed level? (originally published in 2011)
In the last article I have set up the issue: you need to know where you are and you need to decide where you are heading if you want a future by design.
To actually get there, you need to design your path, you need to have the skills and the knowledge and the decision making ability and willingness.
But that is just the surface: you need to change your undertow, the underworld, the root of your world, on the seed level.
If I told you that your life, your projects are like a tree. They are designed to bear a certain fruit… and what that fruit is comes from the seed level. And the seed level tells the seed what type of roots to develop…. But
How your integrity, or the lack of it is one of the keys to your raising your vibration, or not raising it…
Yesterday we had a last session of the course, From Upset to Communication.
The call was nearly all about integrity… or the lack of it.
There are countless ways to violate integrity.
The most significant ways are
lying by commission
lying by omission.
We all tend to know when we actually say something that is a lie…
We rarely know when we lie because we don’t know what is the truth
And we almost never realize that withholding the truth is the worst thing we can do for ourselves. It is a lie by omission.
I have written about, and taught the inner dynamic of perpetration-withhold before, but it seems that it is never enough. I have 3000 articles on this site, and no person can read them all… We are talking about more than 30 full size book worth of articles… that is a lot.
