Yesterday I had a huge whatever it is you call when you end up with cream on your face… cream from a cream pie.
I had been dismayed that my clients aren’t getting the gap, and therefore they don’t present me with real coaching opportunities.
I am intentionally writing this in a self-deprecating way, because I am, I have been humbled.
How? I said: it is easy…
…and then wanted to think of an example, and could not.
If you want to get the most: focus on one thing in a program
In my Friday Podcast with Bonnie this past Friday it became clear that the methodology of using courses, coaching calls, programs is not taught anywhere, so each person feels that they need to make up their own method. Each coach, each participant.
By methodology I mean: how to get the most out of a course, a coaching call, a program.
In this article I’ll teach the most effective way to get the most out of anything. Literally anything you do.
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I am sparkling today with insights.
Yesterday, just before the skies closed on the Days of Power energy, my friend reminded me to refill my cup again. And I did… and today my world is showering me with insights.
About your expectation and reality… The gap… the discrepancy… and how you don’t learn from it.
How do I know? I grew up immersed in the same culture as you… so my starting point was pretty much the same as yours.
And I notice that my expectation about how life works is challenged every day.
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When people speak about beliefs that they want to get rid of, let’s say, belief about money, abundance, they always think that there are some personal beliefs there, that they are discreet, and that they can get rid of them.
Back in my times when I was doing Fourth Plane energies, “designer energies”, one of the moves I had is to make my hand sticky, and pull beliefs, also called thought forms, from myself and from clients.
It was a long process. Hard on the muscles…
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I help people become the person who can have what they want to have. Will I be able to help you?
This is really the bottom line promise I have for you. But like every promise, it is conditional. Conditional on you… on you being teachable.
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I have been having a difficult time writing enough about any one topic to finish one article… Meaning I have six articles started, and can’t or won’t finish them.
What’s going on?
I am afraid.
That’s new FEARLESS Sophie, tell me more?
Some of the things that are being shown to me recently are polarizing. Dividing people. Will make some, maybe many people angry.
The truth hurts. And when something hurts, it is natural to go to victim mode, effect mode, and point a blaming finger at someone. At me.
So I have been cowardly, and have been sitting on the fence.
But today I think I’ll overcome the inertia, and say what there is to say.
OK, it’s about vibration, capacities, and what you can get or not get, what you can use, what is going to work for you or not, depending on your numbers.
Most of us live on a level and in a position in life where we are fairly competent.
Then, according to the Peter Principle, some of us are moved to a level where you are incompetent, especially in organizations, and you suffer.
You either become competent on your new level, or you keep on suffering.
To avoid being challenged we tend to remain at a place, in a position, where we are competent.
And yet, we want more from life, than the place, the position, our competency can give us.
We dream. We imagine. We watch people who have more, do more, and we want that.
To go from one level to the next level is arduous. It is much like going from elementary school level to college level without going through high school… four years in most countries.
But we don’t think that. We think we can put ourselves in a college classroom, and catch up.
I see that everywhere, with many of the people who I am in contact with, people I can observe.
Doing the work to raise your vibration is college level, maybe even graduate studies level work.
You are sitting in a college classroom with an elementary school education. Most of the things I say you miss. 90% minimum. Most of you miss it all.
You blame it on me… maybe. But I ask you a question: can you imagine a college professor teaching college level material effectively in high school? I can’t.
The program I use in my 67-steps coaching program, is the high school level education that you missed.
The more you think you have it, the less it can fill the gaps for you.
Just as in architecture there is no building the top floor before the foundation, there is no jumping in knowledge.
Unless the new piece has a chance to attach and be supported by already there knowledge. Here is what Charlie Munger has to say about it: “You may have noticed students who just try to remember and pound back what is remembered. Well, they fail in school and in life. You’ve got to hang experience on a latticework of models in your head.” — Charlie Munger (self-made billionaire entrepreneur and investor)
I missed a semester in architecture school due to being hospitalized, and I could never catch up. I was t
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How to Get Your Mind to Read
Americans are not good readers. Many blame the ubiquity of digital media. We’re too busy on Snapchat to read, or perhaps internet skimming has made us incapable of reading serious prose. But Americans’ trouble with reading predates digital technologies. The problem is not bad reading habits engendered by smartphones, but bad education habits engendered by a misunderstanding of how the mind reads.
Just how bad is our reading problem? The last National Assessment of Adult Literacy from 2003 is a bit dated, but it offers a picture of Americans’ ability to read in everyday situations: using an almanac to find a particular fact, for example, or explaining the meaning of a metaphor used in a story. Of those who finished high school but did not continue their education, 13 percent could not perform simple tasks like these. When things got more complex — in comparing two newspaper editorials with different interpretations of scientific evidence or examining a table to evaluate credit card offers — 95 percent failed.
There’s no reason to think things have gotten better. Scores for high school seniors on the National Assessment of Education Progress reading test haven’t improved in 30 years.
Many of these poor readers can sound out words from print, so in that sense, they can read. Yet they are functionally illiterate — they comprehend very little of what they can sound out. So what does comprehension require? Broad vocabulary, obviously. Equally important, but more subtle, is the role played by factual knowledge.
All prose has factual gaps that must be filled by the reader. Consider “I promised not to play with it, but Mom still wouldn’t let me bring my Rubik’s Cube to the library.” The author has omitted three facts vital to comprehension: you must be quiet in a library; Rubik’s Cubes make noise; kids don’t resist tempting toys very well. If you don’t know these facts, you might understand the literal meaning of the sentence, but you’ll miss why Mom forbade the toy in the library.
Knowledge also provides context. For example, the literal meaning of last year’s celebrated fake-news headline, “Pope Francis Shocks World, Endorses Donald Trump for President,” is unambiguous — no gap-filling is needed. But the sentence carries a different implication if you know anything about the public (and private) positions of the men involved, or you’re aware that no pope has ever endorsed a presidential candidate.
You might think, then, that authors should include all the information needed to understand what they write. Just tell us that libraries are quiet. But those details would make prose long and tedious for readers who already know the information. “Write for your audience” means, in part, gambling on what they know.
These examples help us understand why readers might decode well but score poorly on a test; they lack the knowledge the writer assumed in the audience. But if a text concerned a familiar topic, hab
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One of the signs of the overwhelming inauthenticity and low level of integrity is the gap between what people say and what people do.
We, my marketing student and I, have been surveying mothers and fathers of children to find out to what degree they care about their children’s future.
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There are really two types of people when it comes to making more money: one group will chase the mirage, the lottery approach, winning, betting on schemes… and the other, the tiny group that sees that making more money is a natural fallout of becoming worth a damn.
I am interested in talking to the second group, the tiny group.
You see, knowing that you should become worth a damn is nice and dandy… but knowing with pinpoint accuracy where you aren’t… what it is that you need to do next to increase your worth a damn factor is crucial.
Life is holographic. Maybe it is the Universe… but who am I to just repeat something I heard… I don’t know about the Universe. But I do know about Life.
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I am an introvert.
I don’t know what that means… but I know that I talk to people a lot… in my head. I have long conversations with them.
So when I find out that they don’t know about it: I am surprised.
It is nearly impossible to have an authentic conversation with someone after I already had the same conversation WITH THEM in my head.
So many things never get said.
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